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Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident

22 Jan 20 - 05:08 AM (#4029556)
Subject: Terry Silver
From: GUEST,Essex Girl

Has anyone any news about Terry. I heard on Saturday that he was in John Radcliffe hospital in Oxford after a serious accident.


22 Jan 20 - 05:13 AM (#4029558)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Joe Offer

Leadfingers, I'm hoping for the best for you. You're a good man.
Joe


22 Jan 20 - 05:26 AM (#4029561)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Dave the Gnome

Oh eck! I hope he is ok. Sending my best healing wishes.


22 Jan 20 - 05:43 AM (#4029568)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Skipjack K8

Hoping you're ok, Terry.


22 Jan 20 - 05:54 AM (#4029571)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Manitas_at_home

Terry's car broke down and while he was on the hard shoulder a passing lorry hit it and propelled it into him. I understand he may have life changing injuries. People had been asked not to post this on public forums in case someone found out his house was empty.


22 Jan 20 - 06:06 AM (#4029572)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: John MacKenzie

Oh FFS, me poor old mate Terry. I hope someone can update me soon on how he is. Hope it's not too serious, as he lives on his own, and needs to be able to fend for himself. Wishing him all the best, and please keep us posted on his progress.


22 Jan 20 - 06:07 AM (#4029574)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Manitas_at_home

*injuries*


22 Jan 20 - 06:20 AM (#4029577)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Brian Peters

Oh dear, that's a great shame.


22 Jan 20 - 07:00 AM (#4029580)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Backwoodsman

That’s terrible news. I hope Terry makes a good recovery from whatever his injuries are. Very best wishes Terry.


22 Jan 20 - 07:14 AM (#4029585)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: MoorleyMan

My very best wishes to Terry, let's hope for some good news soon.


22 Jan 20 - 07:22 AM (#4029587)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,Nick Dow

I am so sorry. I hope the prognosis is not too bad. As David says lets hope for good news.


22 Jan 20 - 08:58 AM (#4029598)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Roger the Skiffler

Best wishes heading his way. Keep us posted.
RtS


22 Jan 20 - 09:43 AM (#4029605)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: r.padgett

O dear sorry to hear this

Ray


22 Jan 20 - 10:55 AM (#4029618)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,guest

sorry to hear this please keep us posted


22 Jan 20 - 11:53 AM (#4029630)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,guest MeganL

Terry so sorry to hear this I do hope you make a good recovery.


22 Jan 20 - 12:11 PM (#4029632)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: The Sandman

get well as soon as possible


22 Jan 20 - 12:18 PM (#4029634)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Mr Red

He told me he survived pretty bad injuries after a motorbike accident in Hong Kong, or was it Singapore. While serving in the military.

Let us hope he is more lead (pliable) than silver (precious).


22 Jan 20 - 02:06 PM (#4029646)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,maeve

While it is understood many of us are concerned about Terry, the family has clearly specified no social media. Phone and email, OK. Please consider not continuing this thread until family sends their OK. It really is serious and this request really is for good cause.

Thank you.
    I think that's a good reason to delete this thread. I'll undelete it if Terry says it's OK.
    -Joe Offer-
    The family gave permission, so I undeleted the previous messages.


25 Jan 20 - 06:06 AM (#4030086)
Subject: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,moira

Terry's family has now started to make public about His accident o from them.
FOR ANYONE WHO KNOWS TERRY SILVER - it is now in the public arena that Terry had a terrible accident (no-one's fault) when his car broke down, and a lorry hit or clipped his car while Terry was in front of his car on the hard shoulder. I'm posting this as originally the family asked for nothing to be posted on social media, so many of Terry's friends and acquaintences won't know. However, his sister-in-law has just posted this update on Terry's facebook page which will update everyone: "There are so many of you wishing Terry well. I've decided the easiest way to keep you all informed is to post updates on Terry's timeline. At present he is on Trauma Ward B5 in the John Radcliffe Hospital, Oxford. Physically he is improving and managed to sit out of bed for a short while today and also walk with a walker in the ward. Amazing considering his injuries. There are plans, when he is well enough, to transfer him to The Hillingdon Hospital in Uxbridge but not yet. We will see him this weekend and report next week."


25 Jan 20 - 06:10 AM (#4030087)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick

Hope you mend quickly Leadfingers.

DC


25 Jan 20 - 06:40 AM (#4030093)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Sandra in Sydney

I'll second that, getting out of bed briefly is a start in the (long) road to recovery.

sandra


25 Jan 20 - 06:42 AM (#4030094)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Sarah the flute

Hoping for a good and speedy recovery. What a terrible thing to happen


25 Jan 20 - 07:26 AM (#4030101)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,guest (Dawn)

may be I'm being a bit thick but I can't see anything on Terry's timeline. we used to go to the same folk club back in the 70,s.hope you mend soon Terry x


25 Jan 20 - 08:22 AM (#4030114)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Brian Peters

Glad to hear he's been out of bed, get well Terry.


25 Jan 20 - 08:29 AM (#4030115)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: gillymor

Hang in there, LF.


25 Jan 20 - 08:43 AM (#4030117)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie

Well done that man. Keep doing the exercises ;)


25 Jan 20 - 09:34 AM (#4030122)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman

get well terry


25 Jan 20 - 09:48 AM (#4030124)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Kenny B(Inactive)

Get well Terry and take it easy


25 Jan 20 - 10:28 AM (#4030127)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Richard Mellish

They put him back together after a very nasty accident once before, so here's hoping they do an equally good job this time. Anyone in contact with him, please pass on my best wishes.


25 Jan 20 - 11:25 AM (#4030132)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST

Wishing Terry as rapid,painless and complete a recovery as possible.

I am sure I am also speaking for some more of the many friends he has made on this side of The Pond.


25 Jan 20 - 11:27 AM (#4030133)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Severn

Whoops! That last guest was me.......


25 Jan 20 - 11:45 AM (#4030134)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Pal Carter

Oh Terry I'm really sorry to hear this. Here's wishing you a full recovery and that it won't take too long. Sharps won't be the same without you! All the very best xxx


25 Jan 20 - 11:51 AM (#4030135)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Starship

Best wishes to you, Terry. Follow your physio's advice and you'll be out and about soon I hope.


25 Jan 20 - 12:48 PM (#4030147)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST

First met Terry at Bracknell folk festival in the late 70's always came across as a good man so I will happily add my good wishes for a speedy and full recovery.


25 Jan 20 - 02:00 PM (#4030163)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash

Guest was me, forgot to reset my cookie!!


25 Jan 20 - 04:37 PM (#4030179)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie

Yes Richard, I had forgotten about his med-evac from Singapore after he parked his motor bike in a storm drain. He has previous as the boys in blue like to say. Should be old hat to him by now.
Keep knitting Terry.


25 Jan 20 - 04:45 PM (#4030182)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: JennieG

Bugger! Take care Terry, just keep doing what they tell you to do and recover as quickly as possible......the world needs you.


25 Jan 20 - 06:34 PM (#4030198)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Sheila Finn

Sorry to hear this and wish you very much better soon. Have best wishes from David Diamond in America and all your many friends. Love and get well soon Sheila Finn


25 Jan 20 - 08:12 PM (#4030208)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Richard Atkins

Having known Terry for over 30 years devastating news for me and us. All love and wishes to him on a long recovery now I think I was surprised by the (no-one's fault) in the message. On the hard shoulder on a motorway. The driver should be prosecuted for driving without due care and attention with an insurance claim later to aid his claim in future for help care perhaps.
Terry keep a diary for that now to use it later perhaps then Fond thoughts Richard and Hils


25 Jan 20 - 10:13 PM (#4030217)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Rapparee

Get well and stop doing this sort of thing, ya hear?


26 Jan 20 - 02:12 AM (#4030228)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: EBarnacle

Push yourself. It makes recovery faster. Been there, done that.


26 Jan 20 - 03:17 AM (#4030230)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Hesk

Terry has been an integral part of The White Horse Folk Festival since the early days of Stanford in the Vale. Gill and I have always enjoyed his friendly company and talented singing and playing, particularly the penny whistle. Hope that he may be able to make it again this year. Get well soon, Terry.


26 Jan 20 - 03:19 AM (#4030231)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Herga Kitty

Terry was a lot younger when he came off his motor bike, so I suspect his recovery will take longer this time. I hope it's good and steady though!

Kitty


26 Jan 20 - 05:07 AM (#4030235)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Jamie McCoan

Very sorry to hear this. Wishing Terry a speedy recovery.


26 Jan 20 - 06:35 AM (#4030244)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Waddon Pete

Wishing you all the best, Terry. Music is a great healer!


26 Jan 20 - 09:57 AM (#4030280)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Bonnie Shaljean

Thinking of you, Terry - and sending wishes of healing and strength. Waddon Pete is right: music does help to make us whole again. Stay with us and keep us posted. We're right behind ya.

Bonnie xx


26 Jan 20 - 10:31 AM (#4030282)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Jo-Jo

Leadfingers, I can only agree with all these good wishes GET WELL SOON
best regards from Jo-Jo x


26 Jan 20 - 03:08 PM (#4030357)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: leeneia

I'm so sorry to hear what happened, Terry. I'm happy to hear that you are sitting up and walking a bit, and I hope very much that you continue to recover.


26 Jan 20 - 05:24 PM (#4030392)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mr Red

Well I sent a Get Well card, with a suitable gawdawful joke. If he is walking a bit, there is hope for a reasonable recovery.


26 Jan 20 - 05:32 PM (#4030395)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Nick

Met him years ago in Sidmouth in folk week at the Newt. Hope he gets well soon


27 Jan 20 - 01:57 AM (#4030450)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: MudGuard

Oh Terry, that's terryble!

Get well soon, my favorite pasta musician (always noodling along ...).

I wish you a speedy recovery so you can soon visit more of these viewpoints - those that are marked with a camera sign at the road side ;-)


27 Jan 20 - 03:45 AM (#4030458)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Acorn4

Hope you mend soon Terry!

We don't REALLY mind when you join in with your banjo!


27 Jan 20 - 12:58 PM (#4030553)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Nick

There is a Panorama programme on tonight at 2030 about the increased incidence of accidents on hard shoulders. Always think these things never happen to people you know of. Probably not a great thing to watch in the current circumstances


27 Jan 20 - 02:11 PM (#4030576)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,jacqui.c

Just found this from Moira Craig on Terry’s Facebook page. I’m sure she won’t mind me
reposting.

Just getting round to writing about our visit. and yes, we got a bit lost in the hospital too. Trauma ward 5b, not unit! we were so happy to see him in good spirits and still having a healthy appetite. He is gets tired very easily and is still in some pain and discomfort but his sense of humour is intact. They are weaning him off his oxygen ( his breathing was affected due to his chest damage and he slowly mobilising. No idea yet about when he might be move closer to home. if you are planning to visit please note that parking is a nightmare and we finally found a side street not far away which gives you two hours free. I took a photograph of Terry on my phone which he said I can post but I emailed it to myself and it hasn't turned up yet. xx


27 Jan 20 - 03:01 PM (#4030586)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,henryp

The motorway hard shoulder is a dangerous place to be. But the Panorama programme tonight is concerned with "smart motorways" where the hard shoulder is used as an additional running lane. In that case, there are only occasional lay-bys to offer refuge from moving vehicles.


27 Jan 20 - 03:32 PM (#4030597)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie

I have only driven on a "Smart" motorway once, and it scared the bejazus out of me, never again. I shall avoid them at all costs.


27 Jan 20 - 04:20 PM (#4030610)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Richard Mellish

So-called "smart" motorways are an invention of the Devil and a serious misnomer; but the account of Terry's accident implies a normal motorway with a proper hard shoulder where people should be safe from passing vehicles, unless a driver strays into the shoulder.


28 Jan 20 - 04:37 AM (#4030709)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mr Red

The info I was given was that Terry's clutch went and by the time the car stopped not all of the back was clear of lane 1. The only thing Terry could have done was to stand over the barrier, but maybe he was assessing the problem and the lorry came by pretty much immediately. He managed to get out of the car safely, obviously. No mean feat given the circumstances.

Any news of the banjo?


30 Jan 20 - 06:41 AM (#4031126)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Ross

I was very sorry to hear this news

Get well soon Terry

You have several farewell tours in you yet

Ross


30 Jan 20 - 08:34 AM (#4031146)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: skarpi

I did not know about this, Get well Terry, slow recovery is the best .
all the best from Iceland Skarpi .


02 Feb 20 - 03:14 AM (#4031683)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman

refresh


02 Feb 20 - 01:17 PM (#4031790)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Ian Cameron & Dee Kraaij

Goodness Terry, what a bloody awful accident. We're so sorry to hear of it, and wish you good healing. We've got a card to send you, and will get that to you somehow, somewhen. Not sure of what address to use.

Keep that good old humour of yours, and we do hope that the pain is manageable!


03 Feb 20 - 10:58 AM (#4031956)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle

So sorry to hear of this, and have already sent my good wishes via friends on Facebook. Also knew him a little from Sidmouth, and the Rosehall sessions. The banjo may have been a joke, but I did hear that his treasured mandolin was damaged.
Hopes for a speedy and full recovery, and a new mandolin in due course.


03 Feb 20 - 01:21 PM (#4031982)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,keberoxu

for what they are worth,
my get-better wishes added to the rest.


04 Feb 20 - 06:56 AM (#4032138)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Dave Illingworth

Have lost touch with Terry, and very sorry to hear about the accident. Wishing him a good recovery. Our associations were mainly via his whistle playing   - his love of trad jazz showed through.
Hopefully he will be back tp blow some more.


04 Feb 20 - 10:54 PM (#4032288)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,open mike

Oh, no, plumb digits . . . . you must have "parking sons disorder" . . . . please do take care when you are in or out of a moving or non-moving vehicle. And hurry up and get out of that hospital . . . that is where sick people are . . . . singing a song of healing for you . . . .best wishes for rapid and complete recovery!! Laurel from California

Transcribed from all caps—they hurt our eyes.


05 Feb 20 - 07:30 AM (#4032329)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: beachcomber

I've been reading your posts for many years Leadfingers and I wish you a speedy recovery and return to our forum.


06 Feb 20 - 05:36 PM (#4032640)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Cool Beans

Get well soon, Terry. Wishing you all the best from Detroit.


06 Feb 20 - 07:58 PM (#4032663)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Billybob

Get well soon Terry,so sorry to hear a out the accident,best wishes Wendy and Bill xx


08 Feb 20 - 09:54 AM (#4032956)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: keberoxu

refresh


11 Feb 20 - 03:58 AM (#4033528)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Ian

Has anyone an update on his condition please.


11 Feb 20 - 07:16 AM (#4033565)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle

I believe he is still in hospital in Oxford. (This is from Facebook, where friends are posting on his timeline.)


11 Feb 20 - 09:29 AM (#4033604)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie

From the latest post on his FB Page

?John Quinn? to Terry Silver
9 February at 15:31 ·
Saw Terry yesterday. He was a bit more compos mentis, though very, very, very tired and we left after about 10mins. Seems to us he is slowly on the mend.


13 Feb 20 - 06:08 PM (#4034107)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Gervase

Send the old gravelly-voiced crab my very best! What a rotten show.


17 Feb 20 - 07:40 PM (#4034700)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle

Latest from Facebook suggests that he may soon be fit enough to be moved from hospital in Oxford to one nearer home, in Hillingdon.


20 Feb 20 - 05:22 AM (#4035163)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman

hope he gets well soon


20 Feb 20 - 01:53 PM (#4035243)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: BrooklynJay

Belated get-well wishes from myself and the Missus as well as all the members of the Sunnyside Singers Club in Woodside, New York - where we had the pleasure of having you as our featured guest a couple of years ago.

Slowly and steadily, we know you'll be up and about, singing and playing - and you owe us a return visit!!

Jay
(and the Sunnyside Singers)


05 Mar 20 - 06:20 PM (#4037776)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: MudGuard

Any news?

Terry, what's going on? Hope you get better!


05 Mar 20 - 08:11 PM (#4037787)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle

Latest from his Facebook page a couple of days ago, posted by one of his relatives:
Terry is still in JR. He is making some progress and will be transferred to Hillingdon when he finishes the latest course of antibiotics for a spinal infection. It's going to be a long haul for him.
(JR = John Radcliffe Infirmary, Oxford.)


06 Mar 20 - 09:17 AM (#4037876)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,sheila finn

Give him my love and wish him a speedy recovery. Please keep us posted. Does Terry know Gerry
22 Jun 20 - 05:06 AM (#4060699)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick

Does anybody know how Terry is getting on?

DC


22 Jun 20 - 11:00 AM (#4060759)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Guest Anonyme

26 March Pat Silver
Terry has been discharged from Hillingdon, in the present situation they cannot do rehab and needed the bed. He is now staying with us, (brother Colin and me), in Newark. We are all oldies isolating together!.


22 Jun 20 - 01:48 PM (#4060792)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle

Thanks Pat, that's good to hear. Hope you are all keeping well.


22 Jun 20 - 02:33 PM (#4060801)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Guest Anonyme

I am not Pat.The post was copied from Facebook


23 Jun 20 - 03:50 PM (#4061028)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick

26 March was quite a while back. Does anybody have anything more up to date?

DC


24 Jun 20 - 05:12 AM (#4061133)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie

There doesn't appear to be any more recent news Doug. Moira Craig is the go-to person regarding passing on any updates to interested parties, and all is quiet from her at the moment, re Terry anyway.


24 Jun 20 - 07:16 AM (#4061145)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Manitas_at_home

Liz the Squeak here

Last I heard (end of May) he was doing well, but has some memory issues. He can't remember how to get onto his laptop, and his family don't know either. He is improving slowly, but it will be a long time before he's fully fit.

LTS


24 Jun 20 - 11:50 AM (#4061183)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Bill D

Terry often said hello to me on Mudcat chat after getting home from a session. I miss him a lot and hope he continues improving.


24 Jun 20 - 06:35 PM (#4061234)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Severn

I hope someone can take a portable device and let him see how he is missed and get to see and hear some of his friends singing online from some of his old haunts.

I'd love to hear his singular voice singing out at us again.


24 Jun 20 - 09:47 PM (#4061249)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST

Just caught up with this. Only knew LF through the old Hearme meetings. All the best from down under Terry.
jacko@nz aka Scalliwag


24 Jun 20 - 10:07 PM (#4061251)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Stilly River Sage

Maybe someone can set up a laptop with the next Zoom meeting so he can listen and see people.


01 Sep 20 - 05:36 AM (#4070307)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash

Does anyone know how Terry is doing? Picking up I sincerely hope.


01 Sep 20 - 06:04 AM (#4070311)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mick Pearce (MCP)

Moira just put up a post on f/b about his condition: Moira's post on Terry.

Essentially: He's moving into an assisted living flat where he will have to do some things for himself; he still can't use the computer; he's somewhat divorced from reality and happy to let people do things for him.

Mick


01 Sep 20 - 07:24 AM (#4070329)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash

Thank you Mick


04 Sep 20 - 05:13 AM (#4070706)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman

get well soon


21 Feb 21 - 07:11 PM (#4094192)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: gnu

Re Terry Silver, Leadfingers :

Moira Craig :
Hi Sally, Terry has basically recovered well although his fine motor skills are not great and he isn't playing his instruments now. He has little or no interest in music now and his memory is not great due to the brain damage from the accident.. He is living in a sheltered accommodation apartment in Newark near his brother and sister in law. They say he seems settled and happy enough but he doesn't use his phone or laptop much as he gets confused about how to use it. It's very sad when you consider he was out nearly every night before the accident. Xx
· Reply · 1h


22 Feb 21 - 02:27 AM (#4094231)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman

Very sad


22 Feb 21 - 06:36 AM (#4094248)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Roger the Skiffler

Sad to hear the latest update. Terry was one of the few Mudcatters I've been able to meet and chat to a couple of times in person.
At least he is well cared for.
RtS


22 Feb 21 - 10:10 AM (#4094277)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage

Recovering from a traumatic brain injury (TBI) takes a LONG time. And it isn't just a matter of the brain reaching one point and stopping healing, the brain will continue to improve slowly over time. The process is incredibly frustrating for the individual involved because they know what they used to be able to do and can't do it now (or not very well). At this point his body has healed, and now the work can really start on the brain part of it.

That said, if friends who are musicians visit him, don't avoid the music because Terry can't perform perfectly now. Gently offer to include it as part of the visit because he used to love it and may find another avenue to being musical again. Share a new song you're learning, sing acapella, etc. And who knows, those pathways in the brain may help him improve more once they are triggered.

My best friend here in Texas was a pedestrian in a parking lot hit by a young woman driving into the space way too fast - Susie was thrown a distance and landed on her head and also had a shattered hip. She has come back a very long way (this happened 9 years ago and she spent 4 months in the hospital and rehab), and it has involved treating not just her physical health but her mental health because it was frustrating to not be able to do things. She is an artist and the fine motor skills have gradually returned to some degree. Not like before, but she can do some of it.

The biggest problem she has, as does another friend who suffered a TBI when he was in college (he's nearly 60 now) is that she loses things. All. Of. The. Time. Short term memory sucks. We tried setting up a system with bright colored bowls on the counter where she would leave her hearing aid and her car keys (yes, she can drive and made sure she could pass the driving test before she renewed her license) but the family didn't pay attention when they came through and the bowl ended up moved or hidden or used for something else. If there is a plan to help then everyone needs to be on board with it.

I haven't seen my friend since the COVID stuff started last. I need to give her back the cane she loaned me for my recovery from knee surgery last year at this time. After deciding her house was too much work she lived with family for a while, and last year she moved to a senior apartment where she lives independently but eats in a communal setting. It sounds like Terry is in a similar situation, so during COVID visits are rare and precious. Don't try to cram in the music as part of the visit, maybe share a favorite song or CD or file for his computer along with flowers or a food gift. A year out from that injury is still early days for him and his friends can help him (please listen to what he asks for - don't assume anything - he will know what he wants and needs now).


22 Feb 21 - 03:02 PM (#4094313)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,James Phillips

The brain is an amazing thing and often makes amazing recoveries. Look at Jerry Garcia, after his coma. He had to completely relearn to play the guitar. Chet Baker had to relearn the trumpet after a vicious beating - took him 8 years, but he got there. Baby steps.


22 Feb 21 - 03:30 PM (#4094321)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: John MacKenzie

Well hopefully it will be possible to visit Terry in about 6 months, if the projected lockdown easing schedule, goes to plan,
I know I'd like to visit him if I could, We've not had a chinwag in a long long time.


23 Feb 21 - 03:19 AM (#4094397)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman

if i had a phone number i would give him a ring and even sing him a song if he wanted it


23 Feb 21 - 10:51 AM (#4094454)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Mick Tems

Good God - I didn't know about Terry's terrible accident, which occurred over a year ago. Here's wishing you a steady return to recovery, mate.


26 Feb 21 - 04:22 AM (#4094933)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: the lemonade lady

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I'm the Sally that message was sent to.
It was public on Facebook so I thought I'd just solve that puzzle


28 Feb 21 - 04:40 PM (#4095369)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Charley Noble

Hoping for the best. Better will be alright as well.

Charlie Ipcar


14 Mar 21 - 10:05 AM (#4097587)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Gaffer

Don't know why I took so long to hear the news. Perhaps the pandemic was one factor. I wish Terry as complete a recovery as possible. His legendary stubbornness will help him in his battle as will patience - he must have enormous reserves of patience as he was never one to squander it on the likes of us! Get well as soon as you can old mate!
Gaffer


15 Mar 21 - 07:16 AM (#4097719)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Hesk

I've known Terry to natter to, especially at The White Horse Folk Festival, for many years, but never noticed that he was particularly stubborn. What form did the stubbornness take, if it is not a rude question?


15 Mar 21 - 08:50 AM (#4097740)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman

i have tried to contact twice ,no luck but will carry on


20 Mar 21 - 05:25 AM (#4098471)
Subject: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin

I worked with Terry Silver for many years but have been unable to make any contact with or about him since his accident. Does anyone have an update of where and how he is?


20 Mar 21 - 05:39 AM (#4098472)
Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,henryp

There is a thread; Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)

From: gnu Date: 21 Feb 21 - 07:11 PM Re Terry Silver, Leadfingers:

Moira Craig :
Hi Sally, Terry has basically recovered well although his fine motor skills are not great and he isn't playing his instruments now. He has little or no interest in music now and his memory is not great due to the brain damage from the accident.. He is living in a sheltered accommodation apartment in Newark near his brother and sister in law. They say he seems settled and happy enough but he doesn't use his phone or laptop much as he gets confused about how to use it. It's very sad when you consider he was out nearly every night before the accident. Xx
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20 Mar 21 - 05:57 AM (#4098473)
Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST

this is the current situation but there is another thread giving a lot more information about what's happened to Terry over the past years


20 Mar 21 - 06:21 AM (#4098474)
Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin

Thanks so much. I will pass this on to others he worked with.


21 Mar 21 - 06:07 AM (#4098618)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: guitaaress

I worked with Terry for years during the 70s and early eighties. I've known him since the sixties and The Coach and Horses in High Wycombe. We were really good friends until I left UK for foreign lands.

Should any of you meet up with Terry pleas tell him I think of him often and still consider him a good and trusted friend. Love him like a brother. Just say Crown Pishill and The Drover. I'm sure it will jog his memory. Just praying to the heavens for his full recovery.


22 Mar 21 - 01:08 PM (#4098753)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage

I spoke with my friend who had the severe head injury and she asked me to pass along a tip on something she found helpful. There is a medication in the US called Armodafinil that she found particularly helpful in treating some of the impact of the brain injury. Online there is a description: Armodafinil is currently FDA-approved to treat excessive daytime sleepiness associated with obstructive sleep apnea, narcolepsy, and shift work disorder. It is commonly used off-label to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome, and major depressive disorder.

I'm guessing her use is "off-label." And she also said that a test to determine if she's getting enough Vitamin D helped because she's getting supplemental now. Both of these things have helped clear some of the fog the injury caused.

Each case is different, so this is just one avenue to explore.


22 Mar 21 - 03:24 PM (#4098767)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Felipa

Silly River Sage - He probably should get vitamin D supplement anyway due to age and amount of time spent indoors. That would apply to many of us.


06 Apr 21 - 05:45 AM (#4100955)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST

Thinking of you Lf xo

Your “old” friend,

Fred


06 Apr 21 - 01:28 PM (#4101014)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Tattie Bogle

It was his birthday yesterday. Lots of good wishes on Facebook for him!


07 Apr 21 - 08:20 AM (#4101137)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Benjamin

I'm just now finding this, I do not check this forum often. I'm sorry to hear the news about Terry. I remember back in the earlier days of HearMe and then Mudcat chatroom. He is among the friendliest of people I have met here. I'm sorry to hear of his accident, I hope and pray for his continued recovery.

Benjamin


11 Apr 21 - 06:13 PM (#4101914)
Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,Clive Hughes

Just happened to come across this when I was searching for info on Sidmouth. Very sorry to hear of the accident - Terry and I were the resident duo at the Robin Hood Pub in Bermuda in 1973-74. Met up again with him in Sidmouth in ‘93 or ‘94 and saw him again every year there for several years. Many happy memories of Bermuda and Sidmouth - I hope the recovery goes well. Cheers Mate!,