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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Mr Red
Date: 06 Nov 19 - 06:31 AM

TED Talk on how to improve ageing
I would bet the people in the "Blue Zones" they refer to have few regrets.

But yes, there does seem to be something in it when the OP asks I'm just curious as to whether this is a common phenomenon with age, or if it's just me.

Maybe it is part of the other phenomenon that comes with age, particularly retirement, where the important things in life may be sorted and the experience of age puts all sorts of memories, good & bad, higher up the priority for attention.

And little of it from 10 seconds ago when I went upstairs for, er, what was it?


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Amergin
Date: 05 Nov 19 - 11:54 PM

"Tut, I have done a thousand dreadful things
As willingly as one would kill a fly,
And nothing grieves me heartily indeed
But that I cannot do ten thousand more."

Aaron the Moor


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 05 Nov 19 - 01:20 PM

You know, since I started this thread, this regretful affliction seems to have eased up somewhat - 'talking' about it, so to speak, seems to have served some therapeutic function. Kind of like how AA meetings work, I suppose ....


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 03 Nov 19 - 12:15 PM

That is an intriguing and reasonable line of thought.


I am wondering if memory foam is not good for my lower back that aches in the morning.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 02 Nov 19 - 07:33 PM

Hi meself, I've had some recent thoughts on this topic.

A couple of days ago I woke up realising I had been dreaming about someone I knew 40 years ago but then I kind of forgot about the dream, except that later that day I found myself thinking about another topic and had to backtrack through my stream of consciousness/line of thoughts to get back to the first thought that started the line of thoughts, and then I realised that it related to the time in my life that I had dreamed about that morning.

So my musings are:

1. dream subjects just seem to pop up out of nowhere but if I look more closely at the crazy plotlines and characters, quite often they will reveal something important, or even help me to solve a problem I have been dwelling on.

2. Maybe the aging and regrets thoughts just pop up in a similar way to relate to an issue we might not have consciously been aware of but which has been niggling in the background of our brains for some reason.

OR

3. Maybe we have dreamed about that topic but woken up and consciously forgotten about the dream, but it has popped into our heads, seemingly unbidden, because our unconscious mind has something interesting to unravel.

I don't know. I'm just musing out loud, on the screen, as it were.

I've been reading some interesting books lately about the way our minds work, so that's probably why I have also been thinking about this thread.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Oct 19 - 10:32 AM

We have a transient way to grow younger by lengthening our telomeres.
Before someone goes off half cocked, it is true that size matters when it comes to cell division life and longevity.

A new procedure can quickly and efficiently increase the length of human telomeres, the protective caps on the ends of chromosomes that are linked to aging and disease, according to scientists at the Stanford University School of Medicine. Treated cells behave as if they are much younger than untreated cells, multiplying with abandon in the laboratory dish rather than stagnating or dying. The procedure, which involves the use of a modified type of RNA, will improve the ability of researchers to generate large numbers of cells for study or drug development, the scientists say. Skin cells with telomeres lengthened by the procedure were able to divide up to 40 more times than untreated cells. The research may point to new ways to treat diseases.

In conclusion 100 years is all telemere extension can offer now.
at present, most individuals are not reaching the LTL brink during their life course, but findings suggest that further extension in human longevity will be increasingly constrained by telomere length. This inference requires an assumption that a possible increase in telomere length at birth and a decrease in the average rate of telomere length attrition after birth in future generations will not offset this prediction. Notably, however, potential interventions to forestall the telomeric brink may have adverse consequences. While short LTL and alleles associated with a shorter LTL increase CVD risk, recent studies show that long LTL and alleles associated with long LTL increase risk of major cancers. Such findings beg the (evolutionary) question: Why is human telomere length as long as it is? Emerging data suggests that evolution has been fine-tuning our telomere length to balance cancer against degenerative diseases. In contemporary humans, this balance has ostensibly influenced longevity beyond the reproductive years.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Janie
Date: 10 Oct 19 - 05:30 PM

I'm 68. I don't find myself looking back and regretting much, if anything.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 09 Oct 19 - 04:18 PM

way to go joe
but every hour is alot unless you are having a reminisent day

Happy New Year
Yom Kippur is the day people are suppose to think of wincing moments and make amends if possible.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Charmion
Date: 08 Oct 19 - 10:31 AM

"The luck to consort with my betters". Thanks, Joe_F, that's a great point.

I had to great good fortune to marry somebody whose ethical compass does not waver from true North. The only pity of it is that he did not cross my path until I had already married Mr Wrong. So I had to slog through the consequences of that last great mistake of my over-extended youth before I could finally straighten out and fly right.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 08 Oct 19 - 10:29 AM

Finally, Joe F. - a man after my own heart.

Actually, and curiously, since I started this thread, those regretful visitations have been giving be a bit of a reprieve. No, it's not because of some philosophical breakthrough; more just a psychological or neurological fluke.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Joe_F
Date: 07 Oct 19 - 09:28 PM

Several times an hour I am reminded of something that makes me wince. The active list of shames goes back to childhood, is still being added to, and must be in the thousands.

Some of them are not actually offenses. After all, shame is only an emotion; it doesn't prove you were wrong, any more than being proud proves you were right. Most of them, however, are real evidence that I am a bad person, socially acceptable only insomuch as my cowardice inhibits my meanness.

Of course, there are many people much worse than I am. The news is full of them. But I have always had the luck to consort with my betters.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 05 Oct 19 - 10:32 AM

Learning a new song or instrument just takes time. Expectation can overcome most doubts. What can't be learned can be replaced with old abilities. What took a year to do before, may to take 2 or 3 years now. So what


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: leeneia
Date: 04 Oct 19 - 01:00 PM

1) When we think back on things we are ashamed of, we often realize that it was in a situation where we had only seconds to react. Another factor: pressure from a person with power over us, perhaps when we were too young to realize it. These two realizations can help us forgive ourselves.

2) If tiresome thoughts of blame and shame are keeping you up in the middle of the night, read P.G. Wodehouse. He offers a wonderful combination of mild distraction, interesting style, and deep, welling rhythm which will quiet your Inner Protester and let you get back to sleep.

Two nights ago I found a perfectly reasonable Wodehouse sentence which had 15 verb forms in it.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Raedwulf
Date: 03 Oct 19 - 04:20 PM

Well, you can Gurney, but it's a bit messy & if the stitches aren't nice & tight.. Don't nod! :o ;-)


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Gurney
Date: 02 Oct 19 - 06:45 PM

I do wish that I'd been a little more selective in the songs that I learned. At my advanced age, it is very hard to learn a completely new song, possibly because the space in my swede dedicated to lyrics is full. It seems that if I force a new one in, an old one fades away, and my taste has changed somewhat. But it is hard to do.
Ah, but you can't put a young head on old shoulders either, can you!


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: JHW
Date: 01 Oct 19 - 05:02 PM

Most of us will have got some things right and some things wrong. Considering the things I didn't do, and think now maybe I should have done - they might have worked out well but they might have ended in unimaginable disaster.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 30 Sep 19 - 02:53 AM

It can also be fallow, that field, to give one hope.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 09:00 PM

JennieG, thanks. I think.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: JennieG
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 07:51 PM

Here's a song for you, Mrrzy and Helen......

No more fucks to give


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 04:00 PM

Edith Piaf - Non, je ne regrette rien

Mrrzy, the only time a barren field is a cause for celebration. LOL


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 12:37 PM

(My extended 'okay' was in response to Donuel's post).


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Jeri
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 11:31 AM

DtG, you needed something didn't you? I mean, you did what you had to do, and saw it through without exemption.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 11:19 AM

Hey, cartoons are either super honest or subversive.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 11:09 AM

Okaaaa-aaay .......


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 11:07 AM

As I age I find I give fewer and fewer fucks, mostly. There is a great cartoon about that... Behold the field in which I grow my fucks, and see that it is barren.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 10:39 AM

Taking a straw poll on social media probably only measures honesty and dishonesty, not universal experience


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 02:58 AM

Damn you Jeri and Helen. I regret posting that now ;-)


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Big Al Whittle
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 02:54 AM

James Joyce called it 'agenbite of inwit'.

That microsecond sharpness of recollection, doubled in intensity because its so near and intimate to our inner core. It leaves us reeling.

Its just one more aspect of being alive that we have to put up with. goes with the territory,   I'm afraid.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Ebbie
Date: 28 Sep 19 - 11:32 PM

Tattie Bogle, I once read that we judge other people by their actions while we judge ourselves by out intentions. I don't know if that is true, in general. Specifically, I tend to think that when I understand another's actions, they are in the same category as I.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 28 Sep 19 - 11:02 AM

I can think of a few things that I regret, and some of those do suddenly pop up again inexplicably, out of the blue, to haunt me again: not sure that I can really say it's an increasing tendency with age though (and I am older than you, meself).
On the whole I have managed to rationalise and come to terms with these incidents to myself, or friends have helped, e.g."It's not you that's got the problem, it's that other person". And, of course, you can't turn the clock back and re-wind these events.What's done, is done.
If I were to put a song to it, it would have to be:
"I'm just a girl whose intentions are good,
Oh Lord, please don't let me be misunderstood".


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Jeri
Date: 28 Sep 19 - 10:16 AM

One thing that happens is that, as I age, patterns I've followed become more obvious. I think it's necessary for survival is to realize I can quit beating myself up about ones I think are negative. I only wish I'd had help dealing with them when I was younger. Mostly, these are ADHD related, and there are more and better ways to deal these days...which nobody much cares about when you aren't a child.

I think Ebbie got to the most important thing: forgiving yourself.
We all have done some not-so-good things we can't undo. Regret is pretty useless, but understanding and forgiving can at least allow us to let those things go.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 28 Sep 19 - 09:40 AM

Now it's a music thread.

No, not consciously, I would not normally want to think of them at all.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 28 Sep 19 - 05:51 AM

Je ne regrette next to rien. Ish.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 28 Sep 19 - 05:21 AM

Yes, but Jeri beat you to it by 4 days, Dave the G.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 28 Sep 19 - 04:25 AM

Regrets? I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention...

See. It's a song thread now!


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 27 Sep 19 - 04:50 PM

Some of the memories which pop up the most for me relate to having been the target of bullying or harassment or power plays by other people. So I felt powerless in those situations until I worked out some strategies to deal with them, but there were a couple of situations which were never resolved, satisfactorily or otherwise. They tend to haunt me if I get caught up in the mental tying-myself-in-knots of "what ifs".

They are regrets because I feel like I should have been able to deal better with the situation, but one particular bully/sociopath was so slippery that I could never gather enough evidence about her to call her out and get management to deal with her. She also has a trick of ingratiating herself with managers and supervisors so they thought she was their friend and that I was just an annoying troublemaker. Well, I was, but only ever for a good cause.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 27 Sep 19 - 03:35 PM

But did you decide to start looking them up because the unpleasant memories were popping into your head more often, willy-nilly, or because you were consciously reflecting back on your life (or, of course, both)?


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 27 Sep 19 - 01:05 PM

I didn't used to want to look up my torturers. I was unclear in my post.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 27 Sep 19 - 11:51 AM

"Those pop up memories and regrets could be a neurological phenomenon which is possibly more prevalent as we age."

That is actually a possibility that I was wondering about, and that's why I asked if others were experiencing or had experienced the same thing. Based on the straw-poll of this thread, it does not seem common; certainly not universal - only a couple of others seem to be familiar with what I'm talking about.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Jim Carroll
Date: 27 Sep 19 - 02:47 AM

My favourite quote about ageing
"I wish I was young enough to do all the enjoyable things I did when I was younger, and sensible enough not to do the stupid things again"

Or the thing the great séan nós singer, Joe Heaney told us late one Saturday in a scruffy cafe at Euston Station shortly before he died:
"These days it takes me all night to do what I used to do all night"
Jim Caarroll


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 26 Sep 19 - 09:59 PM

ha ha
Yeah Dr. Oz is a hack but then again, not being even slightly omnicient, so am I.

My memory has always been suspect, I should have remembered you are from down under. 20 years here should have been enough to recall.
Sorry Ellen :^)


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 26 Sep 19 - 06:07 PM

Donuel, I'm not sure if you thought the medical show I was watching was Dr Oz. It was one of those medical shows which have the surgeons operating in graphic detail. (Don't ask me why but I like those shows.)

I live in Oz, i.e. Australia. :-)

Raedwulf, thanks for your interesting post. Definitely not nauseatingly twee & saccharine. Very enlightening and I can relate to a lot of what you said.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Raedwulf
Date: 26 Sep 19 - 05:39 PM

I really am a brat then, pfr, being as I'm only pushing 50... From the wrong side, admittedly! No, there's nothing I regret. One reason is that much of what I've ever said or done has been a response to whatever.

But, mostly, I did or said what I felt was right at the time, just as I do now. Would I do now what I did then? Often, no; I've learnt better ways of dealing with things (yet sometimes, I still revert because it seems right!). How did I learn better? By doing other things first; if I wouldn't repeat them, I don't regret them either.

When all is said & done, all you can do, and all you can be, is be true to yourself. I've been here, on & mostly off, for nearly 20 years, I discovered earlier today. Mudcat was something that taught me quite a lot about how to deal with a bunch of random pixels over the net. I mostly wouldn't post now the same way I did back in my early days here on controversial topics. I learnt that I'd rather get my point across than post something clever & snippy that simply got up someone's nose. However good that might have felt, I realised that I'd rather be understood & disagreed with than be chucking napalm around just because I was sure I was right! If you see what I mean... ;-)

A lady friend back in '05 described me as decent & honourable. She's right. It's my sense of honour, and my sense of decency. But whilst I feel I'm capable of being ruthless, capable of deliberately hurting people, I can't recall when I ever felt the need to do either, let alone actually did. I know there's a cost with that, and the price has never seemed worth paying. I try to do what I think is right & proper. I try to deal with people as I feel they deserve. One motto of my life has always been "Give what you get & add 10% interest". If someone is nice, you're nicer back; if someone is nasty... In my case, they've always given up pretty quickly; I can be pretty nasty if I must! It's an imperfect philosophy, but it's worked pretty well for me.

I'm human, so I'm imperfect, but I've tried the best I can to be the best me that I can. Whatever I am now is the current incomplete sum of whatever I've been. Incomplete, because the equation is still running... If I hadn't been me then, I wouldn't be me now. And I'm not too unhappy with who I am. When my Dear Old Dead Dad was in his last illness, and we were all spending what time we could with him (& he knew he was on the way out too), I remember asking him "Would you change anything?"

He stared into space for a few seconds, then said "I wouldn't bother with the smoking next time". And that rather sums up how I feel. You are the result of everything you were. You can't change any of it, so why regret it? I guess if you wilfully & maliciously did "X" and knew you were doing it deliberately, you'd have something to regret. But for Dad, for me, regret isn't the right word. I don't behave the same way I did 30, 40 year ago. I've learnt other ways of approaching things and, like most, I'll always choose what I feel is the best path.

But the paths I walk now, I've found only because of the paths I walked then... Regret is the wrong word.

(And yes, having proof read thoroughly, I do realise this sounds nauseatingly twee & saccharine, but... meself was asking for honest responses, not advice, so I've done the best I could!)


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 26 Sep 19 - 04:51 PM

Helen is the Mudcat Medical authority and knows her stuff.
Dr. Oz is a US medical show that is looked down upon by the NIH.

It has been theorized that memory is stored in the brain holographically in multiple areas. Stimulation at one of those areas could still cause flashbacks. If I recall there is a general switching station at the thalamus where memory and response are stored. These computational accounts of interactions among cortico-basalganglio-thalamic loops near the brainstem can be damaged causing memory loss of short term and/or long term memory.
There are also chemicals that will erase memory. I used to know what it was. :^/

Some memories are more stable than others. All I can say is that memory is a fluid thing.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 26 Sep 19 - 04:13 PM

Ebbie, I can relate to what you said and I think I have been living by that concept for a few decades:

"Some time ago I learned that I can forgive anything that I can truly understand."

I don't even think I have to completely understand. Even a partial understanding helps.

And Donuel, I think you have hit the nail on the head about the honourable quality for taking responsibility compared with the responses of narcissists and/or sociopaths. People who take responsibility probably lose sleep at times over what they could have done better or differently to improve a situation or relationship but narcissists & sociopaths probably sleep like a baby because they don't care about other people. IMHO. (I've worked with a few over the years. I'm happy that I'm now retired and out of that loop.)

My go-to resource for understanding serial bullies

So the message here seems to be if we have regrets and care about the consequences of our actions then we can learn from the situation and hopefully be better human beings.

Those pop up memories and regrets could be a neurological phenomenon which is possibly more prevalent as we age. It might even be physiological (see my reference to the workings of the brain as shown in the TV show), but it could be also a psychological, emotional and or spiritual process to help us to work towards being better people.

This thread is timely for me, because it was only a couple of weeks ago that another memory popped up in my head and I started trying to work out why now, why that particular memory, how do I deal with it, what does it mean to me and all the associated feelings relating to that situation that I was recalling.

Thanks meself for starting this thread.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 26 Sep 19 - 11:39 AM

imo a full life will naturally recollect cringe worthy moments from time to time. A living hell might be a constant unrelentant cringe, however there is an honorable quality for taking respondsibility.

It is said McNamara had regrets over Viet Nam as he wandered about DC in his final days. I don't think a narcissistic con man would ever have such thoughts except for missing an opportunity for revenge.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 Sep 19 - 03:23 AM

They say that the key to a happy old age is a bad memory. :)

I will be 84 in a couple of months and and I'm finding that lately I have a lively sense of my mortality, quite naturally, I think, given all the people I have lost in recent years. But the more I think on it, the more comfortable I have become with the notion.

Some time ago I learned that I can forgive anything that I can truly understand. Thus, if I now understand the hurtful and cringeworthy, and just plain dumb things I have done in the past, I can forgive them. I'm still working on some of them. :)


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 25 Sep 19 - 04:49 PM

Ah, thank you, Backwoodsman!


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Backwoodsman
Date: 25 Sep 19 - 04:21 PM

I’m early-70s, and over the past few years (I guess since I retired) I’ve found myself thinking more and more about people I treated badly when I was younger and, as most left my area, wondering where they are. I search for them on social media, hoping to make contact - I think in the desire to somehow ‘make amends’ - with little success.

So yes, I do have regrets which I reflect on far more now than I used to, and I do think it’s an ‘age’ thing.


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Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 25 Sep 19 - 04:14 PM

My wife might not think so if I chunter it out in a few years' time in a moment of senile madness...

Anyway, cheers, Helen!


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