Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 08:21 AM

Hovering, thinking of you all, singing:
Angels Hovering Round
Blessed Quietness
Alleluia, the Great Storm is Over
Will the Circle Be Unbroken
http://www.myspace.com/music/player?sid=80644685&ac=now
And of course, The Comfort of Singing Voices.

This is an extraordinary community and I'm privileged to be gathered in love today with you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 07:11 AM

I am here and thinking of you.

Frank

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 06:48 AM

I'm here. I'll be going out shortly but I'll still be here.

Pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 06:31 AM

also thinking of you and hoping for some solace amidst the sadness.
pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 06:20 AM

Nigel. Just read your poem again. Powerful. Tears again. I'll be thinking of you and yours today.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 05:47 AM

Nigel & Ann, will be "there" in heart and mind today, as you come together with beloved family and friends in celebration of Jane's life. I'll be joining in on the chorus of "The Comfort of Singing Voices" with Allison.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 05:44 AM

Still here with you, Ann and Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: KT
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 03:47 AM

Thinking of you on this day, Nigel and Ann...Know that you're being held by so many who care....

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 03:42 AM

Nigel and Ann,

thinking of you and all Jane's family and friends today, will light a candle at one oclock

with much love

Wendy and Billy

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Apr 13 - 01:40 AM

Dearest Nigel and Ann,

A day has arrived that no one ever wanted to happen. As we crewed along together we only wished and hoped for the best but then the best became that which we wanted least. Jane is now free of the pain which she never deserved. Your pain, and ours as we care deeply for your family, continues. Over time the healing will begin. Let it begin now.

As I thought about about some appropriate song, and as it so often happens, two came to me together and from a source I never expected.......an album of lullabyes froma contemporary artist. The first I will leave now and the other later today. This one is a beautiful old standard. As I listened I realized that after her great struggle Jane has reached and is now cradled in her valley of love.

Simple Gifts



Spaw

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 04:26 PM

Nigel, your poem brought tears to my eyes.

A few days ago I posted about M, S, and A. Yesterday I saw M and told her I'd related her story as I knew it and told her a little of what I've gleaned of yours from this thread.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 03:54 PM

"praying but not finding the words..."
Pete, I think if your heart is trying to get it out, that's worth more than the words.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 03:45 PM

praying but not finding the words...bless you    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: rumanci
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 01:52 PM

still here and thinking of you all
always
all ways
with love
rum

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 08:48 AM

Dear Nigel, you express so much in those words, pouring out the baffling mystery of how such a thing can happen. Blessings on you. Know that we are here, today, tomorrow and every day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 07:56 AM

xxxxxxxx
wendy

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 07:48 AM

I'll read it late in the day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 07:31 AM

I wrote this poem for Ann the day before Jane entered hospital for the very last time. Ann is happy for me to share these lines with you. The poem is entitled: 'We sat & Watched'.




"We sat & watched our Daughter sleeping, unofficial vigil keeping.

Saw the covers rise & fall, movement slight, scarce seen at all.

All the time the question: Why? Unanswered still, e'en though we cry,

Why Her? Why Us? Our Family? Is this our fate, our destiny?

Life's living rules have all been changed, the order has been rearranged.

The Child dies first? That's not the way & we're unable to delay

Nature at Her very worst, our Darling Girl left so close nursed.

And when the end comes, as it will, still half a life left to fulfil.

A coterie of things not done, no sharing in the joy & fun

Of living out a normal life as Mother, Sister, Child & Wife.

Insidious, remaining hidden, entering her life unbidden,

No cure, no cure the doctors say, they cannot make it go away.

And if we could, we'd take her pain & if we could, begin again.

By re-creating life anew, a miracle not ours to do".

                   With Love & eternal Gratitude to All of You, our Dearest Friends,
                                                 Nigel & Ann.
                                                 xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 06:10 AM

sending love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 06:04 AM

"She should have died hereafter;
There would have been a time for such a word,
To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow......"

(Macbeth, act 5, scene 5)

                                     With Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann.
                                                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: billybob
Date: 10 Apr 13 - 04:22 AM

Morning,

Nigel and Ann, still here as tomorrow draws closer,

holding you both in my heart

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 10:18 PM

Waning... but, checking in at last call or nearly so as per usual.

Nigel, Spaw, Wendy, kat, maeve and near a dozen others that I know of in our community who are hard put at the moment (yeah, seems a lot of it is going around)... peace and rest to you tonight as your are able. Bless all.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 04:22 PM

Janie- Thanks for your kind thought.

Nigel- Please check your email when you have time. I have sent that which you requested.

Peace to all,

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 04:02 PM

thoughts and prayers still with you nigel.

janie- only just played "life goes on".i would not have thought myself a bluegrass fan,but that was beautiful.
blessings    pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 11:06 AM

kindness of strangers.

love & hugs

sandra

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 06:46 AM

A good samaritan indeed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 03:58 AM

What a wonderful thing for the framer to do. I was talking to my step-granddaughter the other day, who was concerned about all the bad news in the world. I told her that there are a lot of good people doing good things - they just don't make good news. I will pass on this amazing piece of generosity to her.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,alison
Date: 09 Apr 13 - 01:06 AM

so very sorry for your loss

alison

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:47 PM

Kindness is good, especially from a stranger. Crying is good, too. Let your tears flow. Keep the hankies handy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 08:29 PM

Nigel... afetr reading your post, me too. Be well.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 02:10 PM

that was so lovely of the framer.when we lost a dear friend who was an artist we had one of his paintings framed.he had given us the norfolk seascape not long before he died.the framing was expensive but sets the painting beautifully.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:42 AM

ChanteyLass & Janie, between the two of you, you've managed to fill my afternoon with joy & tears in about equal measure. I love good stories that are told directly from one's Life Experiences & I love good songs that derive their genesis from Lifes' Experiences. You gave me/us, both.
          I spent most of this morning getting a beautiful photograph of Jane enlarged & framed. It will stand alongside her coffin on Thursday. I cried at the copy shop & I cried at the picture framers & then I cried some more because the framer refused to take any money for his work. He said he couldn't imagine what we were going through & the framed photo was a gift that represented his condolences. That, from a complete stranger....I'm crying again.....
                                           With Love to You All,
                                                                           Nigel & Ann.
                                                                           xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 11:16 AM

Still with you all each day.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 08 Apr 13 - 06:19 AM

thanks for the post, ChanteyLass.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Apr 13 - 02:09 PM

A few years ago I took ago I took Qi Gong classes at my local Y. Among the participants were a woman,, M, and her adult daughter, S, who was the mother of a school-age daughter, A, who was too young to participate in the classes. Regarding M and S, I thought, "How nice that a mother and daughter are taking these classes together, although sometimes I thought M was being overly protective. S was very thin and often said her lower back hurt. I told her that one yoga technique was to simply bend over, resting torso on thighs and lowering head toward floor. (We were seated during this portion of class.) She tried it and said it brought some relief and did it again during the next several weeks of classes. I occasionally wondered why a woman so young and slim could have such severe and frequent back pains but never asked because I didn't want to pry. Then for a few weeks M and S were missing from classes. One week our instructor told us that S had died from cancer. I went back through the online obits to find hers. After her diagnosis she had embraced alternative therapies and shamanism. Mary returned to class a few times, really to say goodbye to us and say that A and her dad were doing as well as could be expected under the circumstances. That was the last I saw of M until few weeks ago when she appeared in a yoga class ((My Y no longer offers Qi Gong.) The class was too hard for M, but I told her about some other classes that are better for an older beginner and she has been coming to some of them. She now meets her granddaughter when she gets off the school bus and cares for her until her father gets home from work. The point of all of this is that yes, life continues, but sometimes it takes a few years to get back on track and head in a new direction, though of course she will always miss S. And I'm aways delighted to see M when she comes to a class and happy that she didn't give up after her first too-hard yoga class.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 07 Apr 13 - 12:13 PM

I remember feeling stunned that life rolls on, even though I couldn't understand how that was possible.

Nigel, as we have noted, I'm not a religious believer either, but am certainly culturally Christian and faith based songs still bring much comfort, and healing tears as metaphor. I think immortality is real - in memory, and in influence, even after those with memories have passed on themselves. The following brought tears to my eyes, as well as solace. Hope there is some solace for you also.

Life Goes On

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 05:22 PM

may the children be comforted and blessed,with you,nigel and ann also.pete.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 04:26 PM

I will be there!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 02:19 PM

Sending out energy to you, maeve.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 01:18 PM

Sending all the best to the kind folks here. I'm not online much, being very busy with some tricky caretaker responsibilities, but I do keep track of this thread.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 07:24 AM

Bless you, Nigel. We will be there. May you feel our loving arms around you, hear our voices raised in song, and know that you are being supported on Mudcat angel wings!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 13 - 05:56 AM

Wendy, I hope your numbness is receding, to be replaced with hope & optimism.

Spaw, holding you in our thoughts with Love & Care. As my namesake (the 'T' issue is of no consequence at times like this!), please get well.

Kat, may the healing rays of the spring sunshine warm you & restore you.

Most of Jane's funeral arrangements are done now. Just a few small details to attend to &........

Be with us on 11th, 1:00pm (UK time) if you can. Sing, rejoice, give thanks for a beautiful lady who brought joy into so many peoples lives. Her generosity, kindness & zest for life lives on in her Children,
                      With Love to You All,
                                                      Nigel & Ann.
                                                      xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 08:10 PM

Got you tucked in right next to 'Spaw, Kat. Whether you have energy and mobility to post much right now about how you are faring, know that you are surrounded by a sturdy and supportive crew.

Thinking about what a broad and beamy boat this is, and in terms of the heart, caring and concern, always at safe harbor to the extent safe harbor means surrounded by fellow travelers who are paying attention and joining together with loving kindness.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 05:02 PM

Holding you all close'

much love,

kat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 03:35 PM

reckon i know how it is nigel,it has been good of you to post at all at this time.you will see that friends have been here when you feel ok to post again.
good news wendy
hey spaw and up you rises!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Pete Jennings
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 10:34 AM

When my first wife fell seriously ill, my boss said simply "go and do what you have to do and come back when you can".

Do what you have to do, Nigel, we'll be here waiting for your return.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 07:38 AM

Meh, it's just the flu. This thread gives me perspective. Thanks for the good wishes, though!

Nigel, we'll be keeping watch even when you aren't a visible presence.

Wendy, that is wonderful news. Holding you close.

Spaw---- you know. UP YOU GO!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 06:44 AM

GREAT NEWS, Wendy!

UP SPAW!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 03:17 AM

me, too

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 09:47 PM

Glad to read that Billy's in remission.