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Matthew B. 20 Aug 99 - 09:31 AM
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Subject: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Matthew B.
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 09:31 AM

I need advice. My wife is abot 8-9 weeks pregnant, and virtually confined to bed because of some (temporary, we hope) minor compications, which drives her crazy... as if she weren't already enough of a hormonal mess!

She's not the type who likes to sit still for anything, even movies, unless the movie is so great that it can make her forget how upset she is at the slightest provocation. Can anyone recommend some good video rentals? I'd especially appreciate hearing from any of you women out there who have been in her situation before, and know what it's like to be a terrified psycho.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 11:43 AM

Well, Mathew...first, don't let her read that you've labeled her a terrified psycho!:-) It will send her completely bonkers, she will weep, yell, throw things at you, sob, laugh, well the hormones will really kick in!

My daughter had to spend 19 weeks of the last half of her pregnancy with twin boys last year, while her husband went to work everyday. He put an ice chest by the bed, made her breakfast in bed, put her lunch & snacks in the cooler, did everything and made her feel so special and cared for. That is the first thing to do, which I am sure you've done.

As for movies, comedies might be best, as long as they don't have too many poignant scenes. If she likes foreign films, The Visitors (French) is hilarious and definitely makes one forget the situation they may be in. What about some of the classics? What are her likes and dislaikes. Have you looked at the WOOFIEST WORST MOVIE thread? There are some good non-recommends to go by in there. Does she like the internet? Is it possible for her to have a computer at the bedside? There should be several sites which give tips on how to cope with these situations. I know there is a nationwide support group for mothers of multiples which I put my daughter in touch with, so I am sure there would be one for moms-to-be who have to rest easy.

I had about a week of bedrest midway through my second pregnancy, that of the daughter mentioned above. I love to read, but even that got to me and it was in the days before vcr's, so with only one tv channel available, I read A LOT!

Most of the movie companies have wesbites which you could visit, read up on whatever movies they have available by video and that might help you decide which ones to rent for her. How about books on tape? Does she do any kind of craft? Knit, cross stitch, paint, bead, write? Get her a bunch of tools and supplies for something of that sort. How about letter writing? Short stories of her life or yours or made up stories to read to the kid later on? Sewing quilt squares for a baby blanket? Do you have friends who would take turns on a schedule to come visit with her. Would she want them to?

How about instructional videos for something she's been wanting to learn to do?

Right now, it must be very scary for her and for you. Try to make her feel as safe as possible and try to make sure she doesn't feel as though she's done something wrong to cause this. When a person has to be so still, their mind can take off on tangents of guilt etc. and those they love need to offer as much support and love as possible.

And, both of you, talk to, sing to your baby. Let him/her knwo how much you love it and want it to stick around to become your little one. This can work wonders. My daughter and her husband did this all of the time. She was not expected to carry them anywhere near as long as she did and there was great concern about their ability to breathe and live once they were born, but through her bedrest, continuous meds which kept the contractions down to a minimum, and the constant love, singing and touching through her abdomen, she carried them to within a month of full-term, they were small but completely healthy when born and now, at 15 months, you'd never know they were preemies, in constant danger of being born too soon. And, it is amazing the absolute confidence they exude, I am convinced, because of the constant love and assurance they've received from their parents since the day she started carrying them.

One last thing, and then I'll shut up: I used to be like that. Couldn't sit still, couldn't stand the least little thing that didn't suit me. For her sake and the baby's, would she be interested in a meditation video of some sort? It might help and could be very beneficial for the rest of her life, if she could learn to let go of the small irritating stuff. I really helped me to learn this. Even if she could only stand to do it for five minutes ot start, it would have an effect. I've more info on this if you are interested.

Amongst all of this, don't forget yourself. You need r&r, too! I hope some of this helps. Please do not be offended by any of my ramblings, just going from what I know. Let us know how things go, okay?

All the best,

kat


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Peter T.
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 12:12 PM

Sounds to me like a "KATLAUGHING ADVICE" video would be the best.
yours, Peter T.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Peter T.
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 12:34 PM

(Hmm. Rereading that, I better make clear that that was a very high compliment to you kat, and not a put down! The curses of prose.) This may not be her taste, but I had a friend who was bedridden for months, and he found that the BBC Shakespeare videos were the best. It was a project (he had never gone through all the plays), there were 37 of them, and they required him to pay attention, but not as work. And they were just different to what was going on. And they are mostly great. He got hooked on the language, the energy. Halfway through he interrupted them to see the other series, John Barton's Playing Shakespeare, which is the best educational/theatre video ever. He later said that it was among the best 3 months of his life.
yours, Peter T.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Margo
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 12:36 PM

Kat's got some good ideas, Matthew. I suggest films that run the gammut, but no tragedies or scary stuff. Jack insists that I lost my sense of humor when I was pregnant (couldn't laugh at jokes about chopping up babies and such).

I liked "Simon Birch". It is a heartwarming movie, and I both laughed and cried as she surely will. But it is wonderful. (This is difficult for me because I so seldom go to the movies, or even rent them.)

One of my black and white favorites is "Friendly Persuasion", with Gary Cooper and a very young Anthony Perkins. It is about a quaker family during the civil war, and is amusing and sweet, with it's serious side as well.

For baby movies, Three Men and a Baby is always funny. Or look who's talking.

For more Gary Cooper; Sargeant York. Or for some good comedies, Cary Grant movies like My Gal Friday, or Babe (the one with Katherine Hepburn and a tiger) Another old film that's good is I Remember Mama.

I love Jean Cocteau's "Beauty and the Beast", but make sure it has English sub titles. In it's day, the special effects were state of the art, ahead of everyone else.

Hah! You can tell I haven't seen to many modern movies, as I am suggesting old ones! I hope she likes some of them.

Margarita


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: annamill
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 01:11 PM

Matthew, did I miss a thread??? Are you going to be a daddy?? Congratulations!! Why didn't you mention this at lunch?? How does your son and daughter feel about this, you silent devil, you??

Love, annap (mixed now between tears of pain and joy)


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 04:01 PM

Why, thank yew, Peter! Nothing beats life experience!

Mathew....forgot to say, you could bring her the entire Star Wars trilogy. I saw the first one, the first time it came out, about a month before I had my last child, my second daughter. She has turned out to be the equal of any Princess Leia or Jedi Knight in confidence, etc.!:-)

Peter's sound like good suggestions. Smoke Signals is really funny, but also poignant, has some great music. It was made entirely by and stars all Native Americans; really good. Does she like musicals? Oliver, Cats (overrated, though!), Unsinkable Molly Brown, Paint Your Wagon....your local video store should have a foreign and independent film section. That's usually where we look first. Good stuff.

A correction, although I am sure everyone read between my unproofed lines....my daughter spent the last 19 weeks in bed


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: DonMeixner
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 05:50 PM

When the twins were a few weeks away and kicking hell out of Cindy's backbone and bladder I got a Lazer disc machine on rental from a shop and I very sensitively supplied her with films. "Rosemary's Baby", "The Omen" and "The Boys From Brazil". I got "The Man Who Would Be King" The Wind and The Lion" and "Zulu" for me.

Who says a guy hasn't feelings.

Don


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Pelrad
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 07:30 PM

Now is the time for your wife to do any hobby-type things she likes, because she's not going to get another chance for at least a year. I hope she has some hobbies that require reclining? Sewing, knitting, designing houses, learning an instrument, whatever.

I would go for comedies, and stay away from anything where unhappy things happen to children! (I could not even watch my favorite tv show, ER, until long after I had had my son) I'm not sure I would recommend Simon Birch; for all that it is heartwarming, it still ends with a child dying. (Sorry if that's a plot spoiler for anyone)

Anything she's always wanted to do but never had the patience or time for? Now's her chance. And if she really can't sit still, Kat's meditation tapes sound like a good idea. (I was a basket case because I had always supported myself and my husband; didn't know what to do when I couldn't work any more. I think this is a common crisis among women who find themselves on bedrest) Actually, most of Kat's message was right on.

One suggestion: if you can keep the house, especially the room she's trapped in, super-clean, it will be much less stressful for your wife. There is nothing worse than being stuck in bed with the "nesting urge" at full throttle, and watching your house turn into a landfill. Damn near killed me; I kept getting out of bed to clean it up.

If you can put the computer near her, go for it. The internet is the only way I survived my five months in bed last year. There are a number of good parental e-villages out there; I can personally recommend ParentsPlace.com.

Link to the main page: http://www.parentsplace.com/

Link to message board for women expecting in March of 2000: http://boards.parentsplace.com/cgi-bin/boards/mar00

Here's one that is all women on bedrest: http://boards.parentsplace.com/cgi-bin/boards/momsonbedrest

Oh! Binoculars! Think "Rear Window" here. Put the bed near a window and spy on the neighborhood. :-)

Sorry if I rambled... Best of luck to you and your wife.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: JESTER!
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 09:05 PM

I'd sign up to be first mate on Don's (see above) boat. My recomendation: The ENTIRE "Alien" series. I've watched there with my sweetie, and she's STILL interested in having puppies.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 10:25 PM

Pelrad: good points all, esp. the keeping it clean and I love the binocs!

Also, forgot to mention it, but if you can swing it & the doc okays it (if there is no danger of blood clots) have a massage therapist come in or, get some special oils, ask at your local healthfood store or a massage therapist about which ones are okay to use on women who are preggers (some herbs are not recommended), and give her one yourself. It really helps to relieve the pressure points and boredom of bedrest. even one of those full-length vibrator pads which fit in a chair would be helpful.

Bring her some flowers, fresh from a garden or store. Is she interested in jotting down the family genealogy? Get her some books on how to go about it, or get her on the internet, and/or a book or forms to start notating all of it. I can recommend some great sites for this.

If she can be near the computer and needs an email "buddy", let me know. Do you have MediaRing downloaded? Did you see the thread on it? She could get some voice mail that way and it could be fun.

When all else fails, buy her some crayons and interesting colouring books. I am serious! This can be so much fun. Robert Fulghum mentions in one of his books how much better it would be to drop these instead of bombs on our "enemies".

Other films might include any videos of museums she's always wanted to see?

So how're we doing, Matthew? Sorry about misspelling your name, earlier. My nephew only uses on "t" in his.

katlaughing


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Guy Wolff
Date: 20 Aug 99 - 10:54 PM

I love a good love story! 1 While you were Sleeping 2 The Night We Never Met 3 Crossing Delancey 4 A Circle of Friends 5 An American President 6 My Faverite Wife 7 Roman Holiday 8 Scaramouch 9 Mary Andrew and just for the fun off it 10 Leap of Faith 11 Overboard 12 Splash all the Best Guy Wolff


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Helen
Date: 21 Aug 99 - 12:54 AM

My suggestions for movies are: Who Framed Roger Rabbit, and Drop Dead Fred. But I know somewhere where you can find recommendations for movies, books, music and websites: http://pleiades-net.com/
Pleiades

It's a really good site for women, and there are pages called "Women's Choice" where people write and recommend their favourites.

Kat's suggestion for intersting colouring books is good. A publisher called Dover Books has truly wonderful colouring books, with stained glass designs, designs from various artists like Alphonse Mucha, and decorative designs like Islamic tile patterns.

Also, I know what I would probably do if I had to stay in bed for a long time: take up the suggestion (was it kat's?) to learn something new e.g. a new language or hobby, or study a period of history which interests me. I'd set targets of what each stage of learning would be and then having goals would help to stay motivated and also make it easier to see how far I had progressed.

I reckon it would be great to learn or practise singing or a smallish instrument like a flute/tin whistle, a mandolin, or something like that. I never schedule time to practise music, but I could see myself being motivated if life in general had to take second place to learning music, rather than the other way around. The added bonus is that playing music or singing would be like sharing music with the baby, too.

Helen


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Aug 99 - 01:05 AM

Thanks, Helen! Those were the colouring books I was thinking about. I couldn't remember the name of the company! The Pleiades sounds great, too!

kat


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Alice in Montana
Date: 21 Aug 99 - 01:20 AM

When I had my son (12 years ago yesterday) I had alot of complications (you don't want to know). I had to spend the last two months laying down. I lived alone, and only a neighbor who I barely knew would check in on me once in awhile. Luckily, she was around to give me a ride to the hospital when my doctor had to do an emergency ceasarian.

I definitely felt a change in how I responded to the world, to images, to everything, while I was pregnant. It is not a time for seeing anything scary, stressful, or disturbing. Keep to the lighthearted, warm, funny, romantic.

alice


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: alison
Date: 21 Aug 99 - 01:37 AM

Videos..... Local Hero, some like it hot....

or get her a bodhran and Stefan Hannigan's "bodhran video".

Or a nice bit of fictional escapism...... Daphne Du Maurier's "Frenchman's Creek", (love it.... gets read every few years"). As do any of Peter Mayer's "Year in Provence" series, (not recommended if she has morning sickness... it's almost all about food.)

slainte

alison


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Aug 99 - 04:49 PM

I was telling Rog about this thread this morning. He's been following Cleigh O'Possum through updates I give him.

He says you should give her a massage using possum fat! Aarrrggghhhhh.....don't tell Cleigh, C'spaw, or Barbara Blessings!:-)

katwhoisforanimalrights!


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: PattyG
Date: 21 Aug 99 - 09:47 PM

Laughter is the best medicine, so I would suggest "Airplane," "The End," "Smokey and the Bandit," and "Hear No Evil, See No Evil."

However, some other really good movies would be, "Shawshank Redemption," "You've Got Mail," "Good Will Hunting," "A Few Good Men," "As Good As It Gets," "Waiting To Exhale," "Hope Floats," and "Primal Fear." All depends on her taste in movies, but all of the above are good in my estimation.

I'm assuming there's a telephone by the bed so she can have outside contact with family and friends? Buy her a calendar for the year 2000 so she can transfer over important dates, (birthdays, anniversaries, etc.) Does she need to update and revise her address book? How about photo albums? Need to put some together? Those are some of the jobs we tend to put off - maybe now would be a good time to take care of them. Good luck!


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Matthew B.
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 01:46 PM

Sorry I haven't been able to respond sooner, but as you can imagine, I've been swamped. In addition to my hormonal-basket-case bride to attend to, I've been having the month from Hell at work, requiring 10-12 hours a ady so gruelling that I have to ask someone to bring me breakfast, lunch and sometimes supper from the cafeteria upstairs because I don't have the five minutes it takes to get it myself. When I finally drag myself home, there's the day's housework to do. And I haven't even mentioned what I've gone through emotionally this summer, finally being able to reunite with my kids for the first time in ten years (another long, sad story).

Which explains why I haven't posted much lately.

Anyway, I love you all for your advice, which I will use liberally whenevr possible.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Roger in Baltimore
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 03:00 PM

Matthew,

A recent comedy flick, "Liar, Liar", an older comedy flick "Blazin' Saddles" (or maybe not, she might laugh so hard the baby will come early), and finally a person favorite "Educating Rita" (an adult film without sex, violence or foul language).

Oh, yes, "A Fish Called Wanda" would be nice. My son would recommend any of the Monty Python Pantheon. Obviously, I am free associating now!

Roger in Baltimore


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 03:36 PM

Matthew, if your budget allows, hire someone to do the housework. Believe me, your sanity, energy, peace of mind, and hers are WELL WORTH IT!

All the best,

kat


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Matthew B.
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 07:19 PM

Kat, I've hired a housecleaner, but there's still a boatload of stuff for me to do when I get home that we can't leave to an "outsider." And only I know how I like my laundry done.

Roger, I saw "Fish Called Wanda" and was so aghast at the sheer cruelty of most of it (escpecially the actions of its main, so-called comic lead), that I couldn't even laugh at the rest of it. I cringe at even the memory of watching the killings of the old woman's dogs or the torture/interrogation scene. Guess I'm just a softie, but somehow I don't know if a woman bearing her first child would find that to be pleasant either. Hey, I'm crazy about all the Monty Python movies, but even those make her stomach turn from all the gore.

PattyG, we took your advice and saw "You've Got Mail." We liked it, but had trouble believeing that the female lead would end up loving a guy who had repeatredly deceived and betrayed her up until the final scene. But I want to say how grateful I am to both you and Roger for the thought. (Or have I put my foot in it now? Are you regretting that you ever bothered? I hope not.)

Alice, I think you hit the nail on the head when you advised me: It is not a time for seeing anything scary, stressful, or disturbing. Keep to the lighthearted, warm, funny, romantic. That will be my mantra at the video store.

Kat, the most beautiful advice you gave was singing to the baby. Rest assured that I sing to her/him with the same love I felt when I sang to my first two kids (now 16 and 18) when they were in the womb.

When Margarita wrote: Jack insists that I lost my sense of humor when I was pregnant (couldn't laugh at jokes about chopping up babies and such) I cringed at the recognition. Her body is such a soup of hormonal upheaval that she'll laugh at something I say, burst out crying in the same breath, and then start babbling about something totally unrelated (kinda like me at tax preparation time).

Pelrad, the hobbies are good. she's always been an avid knitter (hence my spectacular fisherman's sweater), and she's just starting to have fun with the internet, so I might want to encourage that. Helen, I added the Pleiades to my favorites list. I hope it helps.

Hey, just a thought. Would this be the first baby born on the Mudcat? Just wondering.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 07:38 PM

Matthew, thanks for taking the time to get back to us. I agree with you on the Fish Wanda thing. That is one of the few movies I walked out on. And, I agree, things need to be kept in a positive vein. Your descriptions make me smile in memory; women's bodies become subjected to an "auto-pilot" which is first and foremost concerned about the rugrat's wellbeing and the woman is secondary, to her own body! It can be a really different feeling of loss of control and you're right...raging hormones, with the tears, laughter and babbling all rolled into one. It is precisely because of that that movies, etc, need to be lighthearted and fun, without violence etc. when you have no control over your hormones and emotions, it is too easy to see a negative image and start imagining such things for oneself, esp. during the waiting game of pregnancy.

I figured you had the singing thing going anyway, but thanks for the mention. And, I know what you mean about your laundry, etc. My housecleaner used to laugh; she said all of her clients had certain cleaning chores they did before she came, so it would "be clean" for her, after a fashion:-)

If it is the first baby....are we going to have a Name The Baby Thread?**Big Grin**

It osunds to me like you've got good experience and she is in good hands with you. All the best,

kat


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Matthew B.
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 09:19 PM

kat, what a great idea! And what a scary idea at the same time. We have name options picked out for a girl's name, but can't decide what to name a boy. All of our favorite boy names are already taken by other males in he family: Daniel, David, Robert, Alex, James and Eric. I kinda like Johnahtan a lot, but my sweetie thinks it's too, um, common. (Sorry to all you Johnathan's out there). Some other names we're thinking about are Justin, Adam, Joshua and Jeremy. One favorite of mine -- which my wife would never stand for (for apparently obvious reasons) -- is Emmett, which is Hebrew for Truth.

On the other hand, for some reason I seem to get the feeling that a Name the Baby thread on Mudcat would yield suggestions like Mergatroid, Dweezle, Laddie, Fitzhugh and Stagolee. (Did I just make some more enemies?)


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 09:38 PM

I think it would be a blast and you wouldn't have to take our advise.....just tell each of us, privately, that you chose our selection, then hope none of us ever meet the kid and say, "Oh, did you, Magellan, know that I named you?" **BG**

I love my son's name "Colin Eric", then he also took the name Lorenzo as a second middle name to honour my dad and an old family tradition of that for a middle name for various menfolk, including my brother.

I LIKE Emmett! My youngest daughter's first name is Hebrew, Jerusha, with the middle name of Erin. And, since I like uncommon names, too, at least it wasn't so common in the US before Cheers, my oldest daughter is named Kyrsten Erika. We used to spell it Kirsten and we pronounce it Kear-sten, not the Kursten, that some people do. Oh, and she was named before anybody ever heard of Kirstie Alley!

Now....off to think of more.Teehee! And, I hope sometime, your lovely woman will visit us. I won't start that thread without your say so. wouldn't want to be presumptious! I relalyw as just kidding, but I do think it would be PHUN!!!

luvyaKat


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: PattyG
Date: 22 Aug 99 - 09:46 PM

PattyG, we took your advice and saw "You've Got Mail." We liked it, but had trouble believeing that the female lead would end up loving a guy who had repeatredly deceived and betrayed her up until the final scene. But I want to say how grateful I am to both you and Roger for the thought. (Or have I put my foot in it now? Are you regretting that you ever bothered? I hope not.

////No, not at all! To each their own! However, may I point out that(and for some reason I've had to explain this a lot) I saw this as an entire "learning experience" for the guy (Tom Hanks) because he was quite accustomed to focusing only on the business aspect of things. I felt as though I witnessed the softening of his character by her charm and even innocence. I would have liked the ending better if he had worked it out for her little book store to have stayed in operation, but the inference was that she would/could continue with her personal style and approach to selling books and encouraging youngsters in the joy of reading in the "big store." I saw it as a nice melding of the two ideal/extreme worlds. Not too shoddy when you think about it!


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: alison
Date: 23 Aug 99 - 03:02 AM

Hi Matthew,

First babies are scarey things, (trust me I'm a midwife). If it makes her feel better tell her that in most cases the "morning sickness" (bad term... can hit any time) is worst during the first 12 weeks then usually gets better.

it is made worse by low blood sugar, but if you feel sick you don't want to eat hence low blood sugar and worse symptoms. If you can... persuade her to eat, (I found peanut butter sandwiches worked very quickly, as did "Frosties" (Cornflakes with sugar already on them)).... failing that try sucking on glucose sweets.

Like I said, I work as a midwife, so if I can be of any help, let me know.

Slainte

alison


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Pelrad
Date: 23 Aug 99 - 01:18 PM

Ah, Alison, where were you during my scary pregnancy and birth? I should have gotten here sooner!

Matthew, I'm glad you got a chance to post back to us. I was relieved to see your wife has a sit-down hobby, that will make things easier for her. If she wants to feel really productive, she could probably make quite a bit of money selling her finished projects. I don't know if this would prove too emotional an idea, but there is a woman in my area making a fortune selling home-made baby blanket/sweater/hat sets. People love to buy these things!

I've no idea what her taste in movies is, but I count Sense & Sensibility, While You Were Sleeping, Maverick, The Sure Thing, Raising Arizona, and Spinal Tap among my favorite harmless comedies.

How's about Nathaniel? Means the same thing as Jonathan. Jared? Jaden? Joel? (Noticed you seem to like the Js)

Take care of YOURSELF, too; you're no good to your sweetie if you're burned out. :-)


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 Aug 99 - 02:05 PM

Finally remembered soem movie names: A Room With A View; Enchanted April; All of Me; Hear My Song; Father of the bride, etc.; My Cousin Vinny; Mr. Mom; Splash; What About Bob; Groundhog Day; Stripes; Private Benjamin; the old Ingmar Bergman film of The Magic Flute; Mrs. Brown; ummm, guess that's allfor now.

Alison, I know it frequently means sleepless nights, hard work, etc., but I envy you. I didn't know enough to realise, until too late, that midwifery was something I really would love to have learned. I've devoured some really good books by and about midwives; had some experience while I was an emergency med. tech; and had the pleasure of working with one, for a week, in CT at a retreat one summer.

All the best,

katlaughing


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: _gargoyle
Date: 24 Aug 99 - 12:51 AM

It is obvious that you have

WillfullyCast the spirtual souls of your wife and unborn child

Into the throws of an anonymous cadrea of derelect "MudCat" prophets.

Therefore May I Suggest:

The Omen

The Beast Within

Rosemary's Baby

The Bad Seed

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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: _gargoyle
Date: 24 Aug 99 - 01:10 AM

Whoops....almost forgot

The Exorcist

Currently on Broadway
Cider House Rules


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Matthew B.
Date: 24 Aug 99 - 06:20 PM

Gee, what a cheerful thought.

Does the phrase "get a life" mean anything to you, gargoyle? Or do you just enjoy hurting people?

As for the rest of you, I love you and I'm grateful for your good wishes.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Guy Wolff
Date: 24 Aug 99 - 09:16 PM

I forgot<<<<<>>>> 11,Four Weddings and A Funerel, 12, About Cats and Dogs >><<<>>Good Luck!


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 Aug 99 - 09:53 PM

Don Juan DeMarco is really, really good.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: Matthew B.
Date: 10 Sep 99 - 11:58 PM

Well, I'd like to thank you all for your loving, committed support.

Alas, there is no further need for video rental ideas, because we lost the baby.

Which is why I haven't been on Mudcat much lately.

Thank you all, again, for being such good friends.


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: thosp
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 12:21 AM

ET
KING of HEARTS
The Emerald Forest
and i agree with
Friendly Persuasion and
Who Framed Roger Rabbit


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: DonMeixner
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 12:31 AM

Mathew,

The is no higher grief to carry or harder condolence to offer. Your loss is felt strongly here among friends.

Donald R. Meixner


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Subject: RE: Help: Movies for a pregnant wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 12:31 AM

thosp...did you read the last post before yours?

Please, phoaks, rather than posting condolences on this thread, which must be a painful reminder, please post them here

Thanks,

kat


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