Mudcat Café message #516202 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #37057   Message #516202
Posted By: SharonA
27-Jul-01 - 03:34 PM
Thread Name: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
Subject: RE: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
Concerned Friend also sez: "A few years back, worked with, and became friends with another woman who had trouble with her husband--one night he nearly killed her, and my spouse and I arranged to get her into a shelter and get a restraining order--they got back together, and neither of them has ever spoken to us again--"

Perhaps they wouldn't have gotten back together if they hadn't had that period of separation. We have no idea under what conditions they reunited; perhaps new limits of behavior were set and are being followed so that the cycle of abuse was broken. We also have no idea whether they're not contacting you because they're angry or because they're busy enjoying each other now and you simply remind them of a painful time in their relationship. But I infer from the words "neither of them" that both of them are still alive. Perhaps one or the other or both would not be, but for your action.

I can see where you would not want to sacrifice your project and all the hard work that this woman and you and your colleagues have done, for the sake of a "perhaps"... But you also said that she's put herself on the line for you on many occasions. Who puts him- or herself on the line for this woman?