Mudcat Café message #515592 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #37057   Message #515592
Posted By: mousethief
26-Jul-01 - 11:45 PM
Thread Name: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
Subject: RE: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
Most victims of long-term abuse are held in place by fear and what can best be described as a form of brainwashing by their abusers; it plays on low self-esteem, feeding it and crushing out any sense of personal worth. It is vital that your friend come to believe that she doesn't deserve to be battered; but it could be a long time for her to get there. I'm not at all sure how a coworker goes about helping a woman regain her self-esteem. Definitely this is something to ask the people at your local shelter about.

Meanwhile, educate yourself. There are many good books about spousal abuse. Look at some, ask the shelter which ones they recommend. Then, when she's ready to say something or do something, you will be educated enough to know what to do.

here is a list of books at Amazon.com that is recommended by the Wichita "Women For Women" group.

Good luck!

Alex