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Thread #37057   Message #515575
Posted By: ddw
26-Jul-01 - 11:26 PM
Thread Name: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
Subject: RE: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
I think Amos is bang on there's not much you can do if the woman doesn't want help and it could be dangerous to press the matter. Either the abuser, the victim or both could turn on you and that can get pretty ugly.

When I was in grad school there was a couple in my social circle who, at a party one night, started a row. He punched her hard enough to knock her down, then grabbed her long blonde hair and literally started dragging her toward the door.

Fool that I was, I interceded punch him, told him to let her go. The minute he did, she jumped up and attacked me with more venom than I'd ever seen. I've still got scars.

Found out later that the rough stuff was their foreplay and, because this was the first time he'd roughed her up in public, it was really a turn-on.

Don't get me wrong I'm not advocating domestic violence or not caring if it goes on. Just trying to say it's best to tread VERY lightly around that kind of thing until you know what's going on and who wants something done about it.