Mudcat Café message #515573 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #37057   Message #515573
Posted By: catspaw49
26-Jul-01 - 11:22 PM
Thread Name: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
Subject: RE: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
I'm with Joe.......Contact the shelter and report what you suspect or know and ask advice. Also in the U.S. most counties have a a branch of Social Welfare known generally as "Family and Children's Services." Again, I would contact them and report and ask advice (and as you know, children are truly affected by this stuff too).

It is unfortunate but true that until the woman takes a step, even a tiny one, nothing can happen legally. At that point everyone must be on-board to give her the support she needs on taking even that small action. A case of domestic abuse in my county ten years ago was classic. Everyone knew what was happening including the police. Everyone was trying to get the woman any help they could and she never would take the first step. Some never do. In this case, the result was the scalding death of a three year old child. Lots more to the story and as I had several of the kids in foster care, I'm all too familiar.

Get all the available advice and get the people that can help on board........Then, do whatever you can or that they suggest to get this woman to take a step. Prepare yourself for the absolute worst though........Sorry, but too often that is the result.

I'd wish you good luck, but luck doesn't enter into it. You have my best thoughts and wishes. May this one "go right."