Mudcat Café message #515566 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #37057   Message #515566
Posted By: Sorcha
26-Jul-01 - 11:13 PM
Thread Name: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
Subject: RE: Suspect Physical Abuse--What to do?
YOU can't do ANYTHING until SHE decides she has had enuf. A lot of women/people in this situation never decide that. You can only help her when she wants to help herself. Help herself for real!!

Right now, she is probably denying the situation and telling herself "but he loves me, and I love him". This could go on forever.

Be a friend and be ready for confidences when she is ready to share them. I've known many women who went back to "him" over and over and over and nauseum. Because he promised to change. Because of the children. Because I love him. Because he loves me. Because I have no money and can't support myself.

If you bring it up you will probably only piss her off--"NO, that is NOT happening!! HE would NOT do that to ME--I will no longer be your friend!" etc, etc. etc.

Mr. is on the Safe House board here--PM me if you wish.