Mudcat Café message #498939 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #36225   Message #498939
Posted By: bbc
05-Jul-01 - 11:03 AM
Thread Name: Writing Someone Alive to Say Thanks!
Subject: RE: Writing Someone Alive to Say Thanks!
So often, in our lives, we are quick to verbalize the negative, but leave the positives unsaid. In monetary terms, it costs nothing to tell people we admire them, love them, appreciate things they've done or who they are. I had a college professor who was not well-received by most of the students. He left the school the year after I took his course & retired to Vermont to care for his aging parents. I asked for his address & we carried on a correspondence for years--through my courtship & marriage, through the year I lived in Korea & fostered two newborns, through having my first child. I valued his teaching & who he was as a person. He was a precious reflecting glass in measuring my life.

More recently, I was privileged to work under a principal who was a really great educator & person. By the time I met him, he was retired & just took interim jobs. I only worked under him for 4 months, but what an impact he had on my life! He was dying of cancer at the time. I told him, in person & in writing, more than once, what I thought of him. And I found out, from his feedback, that though he seemed very secure to me, he *needed* to hear those words to confirm the value of his life. He has passed on now, but I know that I said what I could say. I also wrote it to his wife, in his memory.

Sometimes, life is so busy that we miss chances to tell people how we feel. Sometimes, I think, we fear the vulnerability of revealing who we are. I have always found it worthwhile to share who I am w/ others. Life passes quickly. Do what you can, today, & you won't need to have regrets tomorrow.

best,

bbc