Mudcat Café message #4010846 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #166691   Message #4010846
Posted By: Helen
27-Sep-19 - 04:50 PM
Thread Name: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
Some of the memories which pop up the most for me relate to having been the target of bullying or harassment or power plays by other people. So I felt powerless in those situations until I worked out some strategies to deal with them, but there were a couple of situations which were never resolved, satisfactorily or otherwise. They tend to haunt me if I get caught up in the mental tying-myself-in-knots of "what ifs".

They are regrets because I feel like I should have been able to deal better with the situation, but one particular bully/sociopath was so slippery that I could never gather enough evidence about her to call her out and get management to deal with her. She also has a trick of ingratiating herself with managers and supervisors so they thought she was their friend and that I was just an annoying troublemaker. Well, I was, but only ever for a good cause.