Mudcat Café message #3969971 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #165433   Message #3969971
Posted By: Charmion
05-Jan-19 - 11:42 AM
Thread Name: De-clutter & Fitness: House, job, life 2019 - 2020
Subject: RE: De-clutter & Fitness: House, job, life - 2019
Susan, congratulations on your long-awaited liberation from career shackles, both yours and Hardi's. It will take you a while to get accustomed to being in control of your own lives.

My sister-in-law and brother recently retired, both on the same day (30 November), and are going through the same detox process. SIL worked in the federal government as a speechwriter, a sometimes miserable job in which everybody in her chain of command imposed ridiculous expectations that constantly impinged on her personal life and eventually robbed her every speck of free time; for example, she was expected not only to carry a BlackBerry that was always turned on, but also to check it repeatedly every day, even Sunday, so she could "maintain situational awareness" and "respond appropriately" to "emergencies". Not surprisingly, she had nightmares about getting fired for missing a midnight email and not being able to pay the mortgage and then losing the house.

She told me yesterday that, for the first time in at least five years, she slept through the night and suffered no night terrors.

I quit my last government job on 1 February 2013, nearly six years ago, and HAVEN'T MISSED IT ONE G-D BIT. I confess to missing the money a bit, but not enough to regret having quit. We sleep better, we eat better, and all around, in general, we live better.

Himself is a bit bored, now that he is not travelling all over the country doing courts-martial, but he's finding ways to fix that. He's even talking about doing a Ph.D. in law (the University of Western Ontario is just down the road). Me, I don't know how to be bored. There's always lots to do, and if I don't want to do any of it, there's always a book I haven't read yet, or dinner to make.

Life is so good on the other side of the Great Barrier of retirement, even if the pennies need a bit more pinching than one might have imagined.