Mudcat Café message #3929866 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #161248   Message #3929866
Posted By: wysiwyg
08-Jun-18 - 03:00 PM
Thread Name: Declutter & Fitness - Clearing Out the House
Subject: RE: GAVIN
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Using my secret pastorwife poweres, and some clever FB research, I have been spending the past several weeks trying to do (again) what police... and children's servives... and parole services wouldn't: deal with Gavin's safety. No one thought I had enough proof that they could open a case.

The last week was especially intense consultations, angles to explore, and FB messaging to her family members.... you want to respect people's privacy, but.... as Father's Day approached I was concerned, frankly, that Tyler would use my two-shot derringer to kill Gavin and then himself.

And that work paid off. I just got to talk to GAVIN'S MOM!!!!! She had that same concern! She's known Tyler since childhood, and has seen his previous descents into crazymaking.

It tuens out that she had already stopped allowing visits-- even supervised visits-- because of small clues she had picked up on, so what I accomplished was filling in the blanks for her (as she did for me), and affirming her over and over as a mom. And then we went on to discuss that inevitable stage when-- good, or bad-- a teenager MUST know that missing parent-- and how to manage it in the child's interests.

She's a GREAT mom! We both cried.