Mudcat Café message #3757814 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #142631   Message #3757814
Posted By: Nigel Paterson
12-Dec-15 - 03:37 AM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
"I needed to come home, but I still feel guilty." Tami, you most certainly DID need to come home...to rest, to be in your own space & gather your energy to support your Mother & Grandmother. Your Uncle has taken hold of the reins for the moment, so cast that guilt aside. We humans are not 'engineered' to carry the burden imposed by guilt. Guilt is the equivalent of an emotional terrorist...it will rob you of the very energy you need to care...it will make you miserable & it can make you ill. You didn't ask for it, you don't need it & you have done nothing deserving of it's insidious presence. I speak from personal experience. When my first, late Wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, a doctor blamed me for contributing to her condition because I hadn't been ".....an attentive enough husband". The guilt I felt crippled me mentally & physically...lasted for years & necessitated frequent psychiatric interventions. I'm sorry if this all sounds over-dramatic, but I know how hurtful & destructive guilt can be. Take good care on your extensive, caring, guilt-free travels,
                                                                                        With Love,
                                                                                                          Nigel xxxxx