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Thread #142631   Message #3751580
Posted By: ranger1
17-Nov-15 - 09:22 AM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Been trying to find the words to share this on The Rainbow. My grandmother is slowly fading away. My mother, who has selflessly been her caregiver for the past eight years, is burned out due to other family members who live nearby being unwilling to provide even a five day respite every other month. I don't get down as often as I should, but the stress of being in a situation with so many feuding parties always ends up making me physically ill after every visit.

Hospice had been set up at home, but my mum just can't do it anymore. Her health is fragile, as well, so my gramma may end up in a nursing home. Which of course makes Mum feel guilty. She's deflected a lot of family criticism away from me, because apparently certain family members feel I should drop everything in my life and go down and take over nursing duties. I am not a caregiver. I have many talents, but that is not one of them. Replace the leaking showerhead, reglaze the windows, yes. Administer insulin injections, cook, and clean, not so much.

Anyway, just feeling like I need a hug today.