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Thread #142631   Message #3730873
Posted By: Nigel Paterson
17-Aug-15 - 05:46 AM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Today, I remember my first, late Wife, Eleni. She died from breast cancer in 1997. We had been through an acrimonious divorce in 1990 & had no contact with each other for several years. An overlooked, minor legal matter lead to an exchange of letters & an eventual, face to face meeting. It was clear from the outset that in the interim, we had both changed & 'grown up'. The legal matter was dealt with in a matter of minutes. We spent the rest of the time catching up & more importantly, apologising to each other for the mistakes we'd made & how we'd hurt each other. I drove home, several hours later, realising this had been one of the most important days of our lives. A week later, Eleni's partner 'phoned me with the news of her diagnosis; something she already knew, but choose not to tell me. We exchanged one more letter, underlining & reinforcing our mutual regrets. Three months later, Eleni died. Ann & I have talked about the details of my first marriage on many occasions, in particular, that one, special meeting. We are both in agreement that it was the best thing that could have happened. It made coping with her death a little easier.