Mudcat Café message #3710372 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #142631   Message #3710372
Posted By: maeve
20-May-15 - 03:20 PM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
That's the rub- we are doing our best to meet our thoughts of his needs- we can only trust he knows our intent even though he can't use- or perhaps even think in- words. And that's the underlying reason I mention it here at all. Sometimes all we can do is try to understand a need and meet what we can of it in a loving, respectful and non-self-focused manner. It's a matter of faith in that mutual trust.

Many others are also ministering to my friend, most of all his wife. We can't fix what has happened, we can't remove the anger, fear, grief. We can walk alongside and witness the journey in companionship. We can offer our hearts in song and instrumental music. We can wipe away the tears while supporting the need to express feelings. We can laugh when it's natural to do so, and hold a hand when desired.

That's all.