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Thread #142631   Message #3595505
Posted By: catspaw49
25-Jan-14 - 09:12 AM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
How wonderful Nigel! One of the things I have enjoyed lately is catching up with school friends on a site about my hometown here on FB. There is also a downside. One of my best friends in high school and for a few years after. I previously knew had died. I wasn't around and didn't hear about it til years later. We had drifted apart as our lives changed. He'd married another mutual friend, had kids, and all that normal family thing.

So I run down his wife on this site I found and sent her a note. She wrote a nice note back and we agreed to stay in touch. I ran across another friend the next day and she had lost her husband last year and they were very close. We chatted back and forth and I mentioned talking to "Jenny" the day before. She tells me what a strong support she had been for her AND that "Rich" had committed suicids the day their divorce came through. He had also lost his longtime job and was depressed............I didn't let her know I didn't know that and am thankful I didn't say anything to his wife. "Phyllis" then tells me that "Betty's" husband, also a mutual friend and schoolmate, had died two years ago.

Geeziz..........A suicde and two sort of shocking and sudden deaths.....

I am taking a bit of a break from the site to absorb this....LOL.....I mean really......You gotta' laugh a bit here because I was so damn innocent and enjoying the old times so much I forgot we had all aged and that carries all the problems life has brought us. It is what it is and my eyes are open now and far more prepared to continue enjoying the reminiscing with a more realistic mindset.

Realistic mindset....... Sometimes I forget one of my two core beliefs.....There is only what is. What should be never existed..... The world is ever so capable of delivering jabs, body shots, and upper cuts, in a powerful flurry. Gotta' keep your legs and know the truth that defeats it.....There is only what is......

And then, like Nigel, we can relish the joy of the rounds where we win. Much love to the crew of "Jane's Rainbow!"