Mudcat Café message #3568558 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #152446   Message #3568558
Posted By: GUEST,mg
20-Oct-13 - 01:44 PM
Thread Name: Curmudgeon In Hospice - [update 13 November]
Subject: RE: BS: Curmudgeon In Hospital - Oct 2013
It is not clear from this end if he has had some mental impairment as well as physical. If he does, it is from 100 times more difficult. If he does not, you and his medical team need to tell him how exhausted you are and see that he understands. If he can get himself to the bathroom safely, there is no reason not to let you sleep until 9 or later. A man who wakes up at 5:30 and has no job to go to does not need coffee...you could leave a non-scalding thermos out for him, or a coffee cup with a straw that would get cold...a person who feels the need for coffee can drink it cold until you are up. Food can be left out for an early breakfast.

I would remove all my stuff from the table and just let it all be his.

A visit from an occupational therapist would be good if medicare allows it...perhaps the room could be set up better.

any HELP through medicare etc..a caregiver they would pay..would be good....if necessary, you could take care of a frail old lady and come out ahead from being his paid caregiver...too much heavy work.

If not paid caregiver..if akithere is any spare room in the house i would look at exchanging rent for helping him out in the morning and tKINF to early morning appointments.

i would sell every antique or whatever to see about getting a regular bathroom put in downstairs...just roughted in..perhaps a shanty benefit if necessary...