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Thread #142631   Message #3568145
Posted By: billybob
18-Oct-13 - 07:16 PM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Last night Billy took me out for dinner to our local Italian restaurant. My brother came to see mother so we went out for a " normal" evening, very precious for us. I even admitted to BB (Billy) that I have been feeling very down recently, watching mum deteriorate in front of my eyes, it is so hard sometimes to feel (and act) cheerful when you are grieving for someone when they are there , but so distant. Dementia... I hate you!!!

We had a really lovely evening ,talking about the holiday we hope to have in January in Cape Verde, and laughing about stories of holidays in Greece when something silly and unexpected happened, after 26 years of marriage we have had lots of those!! So came home feeling so much better and full of plans.

Tonight had an email from BB's sister in new Jersey , her husband had an operation this week for melanoma , and I quote " The surgeon said it was textbook surgery but in the middle his heart stopped, so they could not proceed with the planned operation, he was in intensive care for two days once he was stable, they don't know why his heart stopped"

BB has four sisters in NJ but he is the only brother. Just feel I should get a ticket and send him home for a visit, his sisters love him so much and miss him every day!!

After his chemotherapy last year and looking after my mother with me I cannot even to begin to tell you how wonderful Billy is and I know he will say he wants us to have a holiday because he knows I could really do with a break, but I think he should go home to support his sister. I would love to go too , I too love his sisters, they are lovely, but it is impossible for me to just drop everything, my business and more importantly my mum.

so give me some support crew, if ever I needed you, now is the time!

Love to you all,( Up Spaw)

Wendy xxxxxx