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Thread #142631   Message #3556800
Posted By: Nigel Paterson
07-Sep-13 - 05:57 AM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
All things considered, I think Ann & I are not doing too badly. Yesterday was special & a first for the two of us. The original head teacher (an Oxford Alumni) for whom Ann worked, a wonderful lady now in her nineties, invited us out to lunch at The Oxford & Cambridge Club in Pall Mall, London. Originally, of course, a 'Gentleman's Club', now welcoming both sexes happily through it's huge & totally anonymous front doors. There is absolutely nothing on the exterior of the building, not even a discreet brass plaque, to indicate that 'this is the place'. If you are a member, you know the address & that is enough. Ann & I have never visited such a club & really didn't know quite what to expect. Despite the grandeur of the setting, it was friendly & welcoming. I had to observe the dress code (Jacket & tie...I possess one of each!), but other than that, a very pleasant, extended lunch, followed by coffee in one of the most beautifully decorated lounges we have ever seen.
          Back in the real world, we are approaching the first 'anniversary' since Jane died. Monday 9th September would have been her 48th birthday. She shares this date with her eldest son, so we will be celebrating, but in a changed & different way. Like going to the club, we don't really know how the day will go...a slightly awkward mix of happiness, tinged with sadness I imagine.
          Much Love, Hugs & Kisses to All,
                                                            Nigel & Ann.