Mudcat Café message #3512415 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #142631   Message #3512415
Posted By: Ebbie
06-May-13 - 09:55 PM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
"Neither of us is remotely close to accepting the fact that Jane is no longer with us. We see her face at every turn. Yes, we do talk about how we are feeling, in private, at home, but it's going to take a while before we actually begin to grieve. We're stuck in the: 'Still can't believe it's happened' stage; expecting her to suddenly reappear,as if she's just been on holiday for a few weeks." Nigel

After my friend, Juneau's Buddy Tabor, died last year a number of us had the same reaction, I think. As one friend said a few months later, "I haven't even begun to accept it."

Complicating the processing, I think, was the fact that Buddy each year went on tour (He was a musician) for a few months and we kept feeling it was just about time for him to return. Perhaps, since Jane had her own home and family, you are experiencing somewhat the same kind of feeling?

Just keep remembering you have a great many people holding you close.