Mudcat Café message #3496199 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #142631   Message #3496199
Posted By: Janie
28-Mar-13 - 11:03 PM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
Remembering the gathering after my sister's funeral, and it was joyous. I think officially wakes are pre-funeral but here in the USA they are often sad and solemn formal occasions at funeral homes. People flocked to the house post-funeral, however, to truly celebrate her life. Old friends from long ago gathered, plus family from near and far and neighbors and newer friends we didn't know. Old friends included many of the people the three of us sisters melded with in our twenties, the period when we truly became heart friends and not just sisters. Kaye had left and come home. Annie and I still lived far away and had not been with this crew for many years. Fiddles, banjos, guitars and basses appeared, there was singing, clogging and dancing in the hallway, cherished and joyful memories shared, pictures and photos passed around. A true reunion of not just blood family but of the communities in which she had been embedded and to which she had contributed so much across time. The ladies on the church committee who set up the food and some neighbors were somewhat agape, but still appreciative and celebratory. There are memories that still bring tears. But Kaye's post-funeral Wake was a truly joyful celebration of her life, and the memory brings me great joy and solace, even this many years after her death.

May it be so for you and yours, Nigel.