Mudcat Café message #3471957 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #142631   Message #3471957
Posted By: Nigel Paterson
27-Jan-13 - 06:33 AM
Thread Name: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
Kat, at that time (London time) on Saturday morning, Jane would have been taking a short drive (her husband driving) to watch her eldest daughter play in a Netball match. As Ann has come home for the weekend, we don't know whether she actually made the match. Netball is a game Jane played (and loved) into adulthood, right up until about a month before she received her initial diagnosis. So yes, something significant was (we hope!) happening in that Jane was going to watch her daughter play a game they both love & at which they both excel(d).
       Charlie, good to hear from you. How was Burn's Night?
       ChanteyLass, you used the word: "Fortitude". The Oxford English Dictionary defines "Fortitude" as: "Courage in pain & adversity". You couldn't have chosen a more apposite word.
      
       As most of you know, my working life has been devoted to Music. What most of you don't know is that some years ago, a complete career change presented itself. I went back to uni, part time & for six years, trained as a Psychotherapist. Whilst on my final clinical placement in a hospital, my own health gave way & the therapist became the patient.
       My point is that, despite a wealth of knowledge & experience of 'The Human Condition', it counts for very little when one's own Family is concerned. That's where you Good Folk come in; that's why I used words like 'steadfast' & 'resilience'. I know well enough how to support others, but I'm rendered impotent when it comes to supporting myself. Ann & I can't cope anymore without You All. Kat, you wrote: ".....it's ok, don't be brave on our account. We can be your strength". As I said above: "Your resilience & steadfastness is breathtaking".
      With Love & eternal Gratitude,
                                                   Nigel & Ann.
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