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Thread #147102   Message #3470246
Posted By: PHJim
23-Jan-13 - 03:04 AM
Thread Name: BS: 'Gay marriage' question
Subject: RE: BS: 'Gay marriage' question
GfS wrote,"...how about the rights of the children, and all the crap they'd have to put up with..knowing that instead of a mom and a dad, they got Auckie Dildoc and Lesbia O'Toole..."
Who will be dishing out the crap that these kids have to put up with? It won't be my kids nor the kids raised by most parents these days. Granted, there are still kids being raised in intolerant households, but they are becoming fewer and fewer. I certainly don't think that they will be free of bigots throughout their lives, but I do think things are far better than they were when I was a kid.

GfS also wrote, "Do you actually think that nurturing mothers and fathers have the same relationship with their children as homosexuals do with 'theirs'? Do you think that the space between her newborn and the mother holding the baby is the same, Bruce and Darryl, deciding it's time for Egbert to go to bed now?
Do you think the weeks and months that a woman is pregnant, feeling the child grow within her..the anticipation, discomforts, hopes contribute maybe just a teensy-weensy bit of a DIFFERENT dynamic and bonding, than 'Auckie' and 'Lesbia' fulfilling their 'image' to accommodate 'respectability' for their sexual preferences and behaviors???..You think that is the SAME????
Nope!....different dynamics....different bonding....different instincts....different 'motives'.
It's just plain different!"

Do you actually think that you and your partner have the same relationship with your children as I do with mine? Do you think that you have the same relationship with your children as your co-workers, as the cop on the corner, as the grocery store clerk...? Each family has its own relationship with their kids and just because they are different, doesn't mean they are better or worse. I can tell by reading your posts that your relationship with your kids will be nothing like my relationship with my kids. As a single father, I never went through the pregnancy nor did I feel the children growing inside of me, but I did feel "the anticipation, discomforts (not the discomforts of pregnancy, but discomforts just the same)and hopes" as will a same sex couple.

GfS also said, "This isn't about 'love'..it's about sex. Same SEX 'marriages'."
It's all about love. The term "same sex" isn't about the sexual act, it's about the gender of the partners. Your marriage and mine doesn't suffer when two people of the same sex marry. Why does it bother you so much? In fact, why is it any of your business?