Mudcat Café message #290565 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #24798   Message #290565
Posted By: WyoWoman
03-Sep-00 - 10:55 PM
Thread Name: Greatest love songs...and love generally
Subject: RE: Greatest love songs...and love generally
Well, I have tons of love in my life -- family, friends, friends-who-are-like-family. And Heaven knows I've had my share of that mushy stuff, too. So even though I'm in a sort of bah-humbuggy mood right now, I'm not saying it doesn't exist.

One of the blessings of my life was that I'm the child of a love affair. My mother and father absolutely adored each other and knew it and showed it and were married 50 years and were still in love with each other when he died (12 years ago yesterday as a matter of fact). The night he died, he walked up to Mom while she was doing the dishes, kissed her on the neck and said, "We've had a wonderful life, haven't we?" and then went to bed, went to sleep and slipped away. What a benediction.

And my two kids are absolutely the dearest and best in my life, tethered in my heart with strands of silk and steel and gold, even though they're both physically far away nowadays. So I'm supremely aware of how strong it is when it's true. But also aware of how distracted we get by the need for and belief in romantic love, maybe at the expense of many other and equally important kinds of love. I know this has been true in my life -- longing for That Special Someone when maybe I would have been better off developing myself in important ways and not holding out for the Eternally Hypothetical Him.

But that's just me ... WW