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Thread #118593   Message #2587735
Posted By: katlaughing
12-Mar-09 - 11:52 PM
Thread Name: Folklore: Gallows Humour-laughing at death/disease
Subject: RE: Folklore: Gallows Humor-laughing at death/disease
Down below, you will see many expressions of that taboo, people who are absolutely appalled at the idea of discussing humor related to death and suffering.

I think we have had plenty of instances here of Mudcatters using humour in very dire, sometimes life-threatening situations and I know we have almost all of us recommended humour as a coping mechanism. We've also had plenty of discussions about death, playing and singing in hospices full of dying people, etc.

Having said that, I would thank you, Joe, not to denigrate the rest of us for perhaps not understanding the initial post's intent. You admitted to this yourself, but the rest of us aren't allowed?

The new title and further explanation help. I hope we can leave Ms. Goody out of it. According to the wiki article to which you posted a link, she has withdrawn from the public life to die and has said her goodbyes to family even. Surely we can discuss Gallows Humour without slagging off on a young woman who is dying as we type. I don't think this needs to be a personal discussion about people who are still alive but may be dying.

One more thing, I know I have posted, somewhere, about a young woman who found out she had terminal cancer. She withdrew from everything but funny, slapstick funny old movies. I can't remember how long she filled her life with them, a few months I think; anyway, she was cancer free when her "Humour Treatment" was done. We're always saying something like "I laugh to keep from crying." Good medicine in just about any situation.