Mudcat Café message #1923790 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #64659   Message #1923790
Posted By: JohnInKansas
01-Jan-07 - 03:50 AM
Thread Name: BS: Nest - Empty or full?
Subject: RE: BS: Nest - Empty or full?
"Mama, all the kids at school called me a momma's boy."

"Yes, dear. I heard them. I was there."

(From today's comics)

I never thought of moving back home once I left for college, married, and got a job elsewhere. I suspect that my parents might have permitted it as an "interim" thing, but it was never seriously considered. It was much the same for my sister, who married while in college and "joined the Navy" with her new husband.

My own children were a bit "rebellious" and daughter moved out almost immediately after high school. Son pulled some strings with his mother's psychiatrist to get permission to take an early GED exam, and "finished high school" at 14. He went to live with his sister in another state almost immediately after. (Both kids moved back to town almost immediately after their mother left the state with her new boyfriend.)

Both kids have on occasion asked if they could come and stay with me, but for the most part they've found other arrangements. I've taken in the daughter's two kids for a few months once, and the son has stayed with me for short periods a couple of times.

Our daughter in law lives with us now. Son is driving long haul truck and is in town only about 3 days out of every month. Daughter in law spends all her time caring for her invalid mother and grandmother, so comes "home" only to sleep and let their two dogs out. It was supposed to be for "a week or two until we get a place" but he's out on the road and can't look, and she's generally too worn out to do much without him, so we don't feel bad that they've been here (nominally) for 21 months now, but ...

Fortunately (I think?) we have 4 bedrooms and 3 baths, so it's not too "inconvenient."

It seems more common for "grown-up" kids now to consider parents as somehow "responsible" even after they might be mature enough to be self-sufficient; but the appearance may be just because there are fewer now who never left home to begin with. A generation or so back it wasn't too uncommon for the kids to just "help around the homestead" or buy a few acres just down the road. It seems now that most of them leave home at least once, so the coming back is a little more obvious.

But that could be just my imagination... .