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Thread #67653   Message #1145865
Posted By: harpgirl
25-Mar-04 - 11:49 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Subject: RE: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Okay, Bothered and Bewildered, you did say that, and added just a tiny bit of moralizing to it to water it down (and hopefully , others) but I was reacting to what you then said in these last two posts:

"This is why I am surprised that people who have gone through all this when younger, and have lived with the repercussions, are still behaving the same way second or more time around later in life, having apparently learned nothing"

This remark is definitely sanctimonious, in my view. His behavior only says he is going elsewhere, not that he "has learned nothing". Did you ask him why he quit you?

"His reaction tells me that he is NOT interested in me as a person, he is interested in what he can get from me. (Either just sex itself, or using sex to gain from me in some other way). "

This is also an assumption based on your moral view of what sex should be, I think. Maybe he just wanted to show you a good time and he thinks that's his only asset. Did you ever think of that?