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Thread #67653   Message #1138119
Posted By: Ellenpoly
16-Mar-04 - 10:24 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Subject: RE: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
I'm glad that this thread is still going!

Oh, B&B, here's a story for you! When my love Walt was dying, a group of this friends got together and had a wonderful Hoot for him (organized by Deckman Bob, bless his name forever and ever). I was really looking forward to meeting all of Walt's friends from the folk community since he and I had been connected in another state with a different bunch of friends and cohorts.

When we arrived (his sister on one side of him, and me on the other), I almost IMMEDIATLY started picking up some very strange vibes. They were definitely "checking me out" kinda vibes, and I hadn't a clue why anyone in their right mind would consider it appropriate to be scoping out a woman on the arms of another man, ESPECIALLY a DYING MAN ferchrissake!!

It was explained to me afterwards in some great detail, that this was actually one of Walt's M.O.s, and that he had been famous for making time with any and every woman he could possibly "pull" (to use an interesting English expression). And that all these guys were doing was following a long established tradition of casing out the talent..and in two cases...calling me later to ask me out!!!

So, again, what is my point here? BE CAREFUL! The world is full of NUTS! Seriously, though, after Walt passed on, it was several years before I went out again, and even then, I realized I should have waited longer. I went back to some old bad habits and jumped into something that was not only a waste of my time, but if truth be known, of my dignity. Never again will I go down that road.

Yes, Kendall, friendly sex is fine, if you can honestly find a lady who is coming at it in the same mood and with the same lack of any other intentions, lucky you...but it's just not all that easy for a lot of us, even for us that have professed in the past that it is.

This is all so personal, but erring on the side of safety in the emotional sense is worth it, from my view...xx..e