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Thread #67653   Message #1133890
Posted By: GUEST,Middle Aged Man
11-Mar-04 - 10:41 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Subject: RE: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Sorry I misread what was happening--I really can't speak to any of the other issues, but I do know a ittle bit about the "Is he really interested in ME - human beings could all win Oscars as actors - or, as a foreigner working in this country, does he see me and my address as a way to stay here ?" business .

A good friend in our age bracket, with a good career, house, and a long term failed marriage in her past had just about settled on what she called "The sadder but wiser lifestyle" when she met and was swept off her feet by a charming and romantic foreigner.

He seemed perfect--he loved her, doted on her, and, on top of that, he loved all of her friends(that should have been the tipoff right there!)--after the wedding, things changed drastically. He spent a lot of time away--he ignored her when they were together, except when he wanted something, when he became dictatorial, and, ultimately, he became abusive--she filed for divorce, criminal charges, and made statement to INS as well, not surprisingly, he disappeared--

Not that it always happens this way--but better to be safe than sorry--