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Thread #67653   Message #1132803
Posted By: GUEST,Bothered and Bewildered
10-Mar-04 - 03:44 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Subject: RE: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Precisely, Andi !

'Middle Aged Man', in answer to some of the points you made:

You said: "When the chemistry is there, the good sense and practicality go out of the window". No they don't !! The chemistry is very much there between me and this man. It was there from the minute we set eyes on each other. We met in the course of a 'normal' working day, not in a social situation where either of us were actively out looking for a mate. He has turned up in my life like a bolt from the blue. Yes, I am romantically interested in him. It would be very easy for me to go along with his wishes and leap into bed with him right now, and I know, from the times we have spent together, it would be a delightful experience for both of us. You think I don't want to do that ? Of course I do. And, of course, I have made the way I feel about the situation, and that this is too early, clear to him. It would be foolish and unkind of me not to.

But, I am a grown woman who made mistakes when she was younger, and learned from them. How, after two weeks, can there have been time to get to know him enough for trust to exist between us to the extent of total intimacy ? From a man's point of view: "Is she really interested in ME, or just wanting financial security ?" (see Mr. Red's experiences). From my point of view, in this instance: "Is he really interested in ME - human beings could all win Oscars as actors - or, as a foreigner working in this country, does he see me and my address as a way to stay here ?" Only time can answer those kind of questions.