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Thread #67653   Message #1132796
Posted By: katlaughing
10-Mar-04 - 03:22 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
Subject: RE: BS: Dating Behaviour - am I out of touch ?
When I dated, as a young divorced mother of two, I was always totally honest with the person. Sometimes I had to be blunt, look them in the eye and say, "You may buy me a drink, take me to dinner, etc., but I will NOT fuck you for it." Most times when it came to that, the guys were relieved and we went on to have a nice time. I think they were glad to get it out in the open, so that there were no awkward moments or guessing games of will she/won't she, should I/shouldn't I.

However, it is a misconception, imo, that men have more of a sex drive than women; women havne't had as much opportunity to be as open about it as men, until the past two or three decades. I know plenty of centre-aged women who would welcome finding a man of similar age who can still get it "up" and is still interested in having a good romp.

Having said all of that, like a few others have noted, Rog and I melded our hearts, souls, and bodies on our first date and our 24th anniversary is in two days. What's funny about that is I'd been twice-married and divorced before that, plus dated a lot and swore I would never sleep with a guy, again, until we'd dated a few times! Ya never know when a soul mate is going to come along and then whatever you decide feels right no matter which date it is, imo.:-)