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Thread #64659   Message #1059730
Posted By: mouldy
24-Nov-03 - 03:07 AM
Thread Name: BS: Nest - Empty or full?
Subject: RE: BS: Nest - Empty or full?
As I previously said on the last thread, one has left home and lives 250 miles away in Cardiff, having chosen my siver wedding party (one of the few times I'd seen him that year) to announce that he thought he would stay in South Wales, where all his friends were. Another moved back briefly this summer and now lives only 4 miles away. She turns up with her fiance every Monday to be fed, and I sometimes see her once or twice during the rest of the week. The youngest goes off next September and has applied to universities as far away from Yorkshire as Aberdeen and Portsmouth. She says she expects not to come home when she finishes.
I am on only child, and much as it hurt her to do it, my mother was pleased for me to go away to college in London. I also stayed on down there, although I came home frequently at weekends to visit my fiance. My mum said she thought that everyone should leave home before settling down into marriage or partnerships as a first leaving, so that they could learn what it's like out in the world. She herself got called up during WW2, and went very apprehensively, but said it was the best thing that ever happened to her. She even signed on for an extra year at the end of the war. And I have always agreed with her.

I was really looking forward to this stage in my life (freedom at last!), but of late I have been feeling apprehensive, having an overseas-working spouse I only see every 6-8 weeks or so. Ruth, my youngest, who is usually somebody to talk to in the evenings, spends a lot of her weekends at her friend's house - it's a good job I have the dogs for company!
I live in a village where there is no "heart". We don't even have a village hall, and so very little goes on. It's mainly a dormitory. Once your kids leave the village school you start to lose contact with other people. I do my craft fairs from time to time, and that has extended my range a bit, but I am considering getting part time work next year, just for making new friends.

Time for a positive attitude! But I know when I drop my last "baby" off at uni, I will be inconsolable for a while.