Mudcat Café message #1033763 The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #63595   Message #1033763
Posted By: McGrath of Harlow
11-Oct-03 - 01:30 PM
Thread Name: BS: Fighting fair in arguments
Subject: RE: BS: Fighting fair in arguments
"...sage sayings like "count to ten", etc. In other words, don't just jump in: stop, analyse, think, etc...Ensure brain is in gear before mouth is in motion..."

One good thing about the Mudcat as a place to argue is that it is a lot easier to do this. It's tempting to jump in and send in a reply qickly, either because someone has said something that lays them open to attack, or because they have said something that arouses a strong feelimg - anger or perhaps enthusiasm. But I've found it's a lot better to hold off. Quite often when you reread the post that set you off, you realise you hadn't quite read it right.

It's a good idea to remember that what we write here stays on the record. We can't unsay things. And as Mickey191 points out, posts we made months or even years ago can be dredged up, and can sour things.