My maternal Gran(who raised me) was born in 1880 her dad was a 'gentleman farmer'. She was an only child who brought disgrace on her parents as she eloped with the stable lad! Her father's fortune was left to a nephew. She gave birth to 9 children including 2 sets of twins, 7 lived to adulthood. She was well read, was always interested in new technology(she would have loved thePC lol) played the piano well and her needlework was fantastic. Although money was tight she was always elegantly dressed(she made all the clothes)and always a 'lady'. Granda liked 'A' drink and gran had to walk 5 miles on a Friday to meet Granda from work to get the wages or he would stop in all the ale houses on the way home. She could make a meal from almost nothing . She always told me be" your own person and dont feel you have to follow the flock". she died in 1959. I still miss her!